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writes:What is the best way to figure out your sexuality issues, and whether you're gay, straight, or Bi, when you're from over protective, anti gay family who expect you to be perfect, and live under the same roof till you get married, and talks about moving out, are not an option, when you have a certain time to arrive home when going out with mates and when you haven't dated becasue you scared of getting hurt and realising that you aren't attracted to the opposite sex?What do you do in that situation? Reply to this Question
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reader, Butterflyfly +, writes (25 July 2007):
 i think you should take it in easy stepts and move out first to get some space to relax and explore on your own without feeling daunted by family.
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reader, sunrise +, writes (3 March 2007):
 Hi, how sad that your family treat you like a child. You are old enough to make your own decisions, firstly you have to move out, have you a friend that can put you up until you can find somewhere more permanent? Once you've made that big step then you can start finding yourself, going out to the local pubs and clubs and meeting people. Dont begin to worry about your sexuality, when you become attracted to someone just take it from there.
Dont involve your parents in your plans until you have it all sorted and try to be strong, stand by what you plan they have no right to take away your human rights.
Life is for living, i'd love to hear how things go. Remember this is your life, good luck x
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (13 February 2007):
Tell your family to stick it. And like dragonette said, just move the hell out. Your family do NOT own or rule you. But the sexuality thing, in my mind, it takes alot thinking. Deep thinking and meeting people who may be gay like you. Chuck youself into your local gay bar, meet a bloke, and then together you can find out if you are gay or not. Your family will need to learn to respect you, stright gay or bi. And whatever you choose to tell them, about your sexuality or social life, is absolutely up to you. Message me if you want to talk more about it, but your are old enough and you deserve to enjoy your life. It wont be your family who at the end of your life wishes you did more. So like i said, you can message me if you want to x
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (13 February 2007):
 Dear, at the age of 26 you don't need to have your family telling you to stay home. You just move out.
And even if your first flat happens to be a crappy 1 room apartment with sea-sick green walls, it will still be better for you living at home waiting for your life as an adult to begin while your family dictates your personality.
I don't know what the situation is in England, but see if you can find someplace to rent, and move your stuff in there. If your family won't help you move, maybe a good friend will?
I can understand that your family might be upset from you moving, but let them know that they will always be your family and you will visit them, but you need to find yourself or be very unhappy.
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