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writes:Hi,Okay, help please. I just broke up w/ my gf of 5 years. She and I had a talk the other night, and she told me she still loves me, but because of earlier times, she doesn't trust me. I haven't cheated, but when we met, i was with someone else at the time. it was hard to lose someone, so i went through a period of keeping in contact with her...not the best thing. She said she didn't know what to do, and i said do you want to break up? and she said she didn't know...i told her it can work if we try, and she seemed to feel unsure if it could. By the way, we just had a great 1 week vacation in Jamaica 2 weeks prior. Her brother is getting engaged, and he is younger, so she is suddenly "freaking out". So, after we talked, i said i guess ought to end it and not suffer...but i then stayed over her house, and we spent the next day hanging out, having a really close day and evening..i told her to take her stuff if she wanted, and she said no, not all of it...she took her toothbrush, but brought me over a favorite (i know this is silly) stuffed animal I bought her and told me she'll get it later....i do love her, but I don't want to get hurt.What is she really saying? Do I just walk away, and let it go?thank you!
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reader, willem  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 i think u are us confused as she is ............ so get ur head 2gether and may b its gonna b easier 2 c whats going on in hers ,,,,,, if that does help and u wanna keep her go 2 my profile and follow my tip and shes yours forever
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reader, pinkpunkette  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 ask her in a few days if she ment it it may hadve been in the heat of the moment you have to think do you want to get involved with this woman again? really willing to comit? will she comit? go from the heartbest of luck _ x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2007): She really does sound like she wants to get married...
however... no guy can read agirls mind and girls have different ways of reacting to things, or dealign with things
so... I reckon the best thign to do issit down with her and talk about it
you may even have to ask the question "where do you see US in 5 years time ?"
she may say.. married with kids and a dog and a mortgage and 2 securejobs...
or it could be the total opposite
anyway...sounds like you'd better go off and do some talking
good luck mate
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reader, mona-lisa-cries +, writes (29 May 2007):
 if you love her nearly as much as you say you do you will do anything to make her happy!
You obviously hurt her by being with this other woman so its clear she cares for you and if she is the one who is at risk of being hurt. You need to trust she wont hurt you and then you need to reassure her you wont hurt her.
if you love her...fight for her
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2007): What dvi said it's not true i'm a girl and i've been with my bf for 4 years. Sometimes when everything's fine i start thinking of things he lied about and i tell him that i don't know what to do cuz i don't trust him. When she says she doen't know what to do it's true. She doesn't cuz u lied to her and she doesn't know how to trust u. Tell her u're willing to do ANYTHING to earn her trust again and that u love her and see what she says. Maybe she's just trying to act difficult cuz she's mad about ur lies. Give her time she loves you.
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reader, tinx +, writes (29 May 2007):
it sounds like she just wants reassurance maybe take her out and remind her why you two are in love, if you need to even propose!!! the trust thing i can understand, but it will pass it may jusy br a little blip but it sounds like she loves you, i think you should hang about and see how it goes, treat her like a princess. if it doesn't work games up! good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2007): That's not true at all. She doesn't want to break up . Why is she freaking out b/c her little bro is engaged? Because she wants you to ask her to marry you. Guys are sooo clueless Oh my God. Just bring it up. And you'll see I am correct. Women don't like wasting 5 yrs. out of their lives with a man that they think will never marry her. Women worry about getting older and men not wanting them anymore. So this is why your woman is wondering "Am I wasting my time"? She is probably too proud to admit to you that she wants more of a commitment, like marriage. But trust me she does. So if you want to be with her, ask her to marry you. If not, then tell her you aren't ready for marriage, and move on and let her find a man that wants to step up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2007): i have to say the best thing you can do is jus sit down and talk to her, she sounds very insecure and all this wedding stuff of someone younger makes women fester. her trust may not be 100% as you was with someone prior, maybe you should remind her why you chose her and why she fell for you. go back and tick all the boxes you had, like watching an old movie of you two, but live it !!! if it doesnt work you can't say you haven't tried you will just have to move on, and if you do stay in contact make sure you don't get a new girl straight away. it sounds like she does love you and she just wants comfort from you if you are that serious about her do what i said then propose to her. good luck
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reader, DV1 +, writes (29 May 2007):
 It's time to let go. It's going to hurt, but she seems to be trying to leave peacefully so that you both hurt a little less.
Dv1
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