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writes:I would like some input on this as its very upseting for me and i feel i have no control over the situation. Me and my girlfriend are on a break for 1 month. She feels she cannot trust me because a few weeks ago we had an argument and my ex girlfriend as a friend to cheer me up asked if i wanted to go bowling. for the record i never did go bowling for with her. But my girlfriend found out about this and says she cant trust me. We have only been on the break for 2 days and i am going out of my mind here. I love her so damn much and would never do anything to hurt her. for this month we agreed no contact in person,phone,email etc. I just dont know what to do, i guess i will have to wait, but i hope she realises what we have and doesn't leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): elo mate,
Me and my gf are on a break atm cuz shes really busy and doesnt want a relationship atm. Its crap i know what your going thru. talk to your mates who have been thru similar things, that is whats getting me thru right now. in the spare time you now have when you are not seeing her do something productive, ive started going back to the gym. if my gf decides she wants me back 4 good she'll have a nice suprise wen she see's the fruits of my work :)
all the best mate
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI never did go bowling with me ex, she found out by reading me text messages. (i let her read them as i had nothing to hide)Her parents went through divorce a few years ago and her mum was really hurt by this. And i feel my girlfriend is worried she will get hurt in our relationship. my parents are only just divorced, so she must understand i know what she went through.
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reader, jomana  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 why don't you try to let her remember all the good times you had and all the times you didn't let her down , that will make her come to realize that you are still good inside off you and how hard it is to let go off all these good memories . and ya it was kinda silly of you to go out with your ex but you could simply tell her that your not an angel your a human ,you do make mistakes and from your or her mistakes you both learn more and hopefully your relationship gets stronger
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reader, DV1  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 Let her find you. If she's ready to listen, tell her that you just needed a friend, and it so happened that you were still friends with your ex. If she can't handle you maintaining friendships with your exes instead of holding negativity towards them, then she will never trust you. Don't hold your breath for her.
DV1
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reader, kilekie020 +, writes (29 May 2007):
 this kind of situation seriously sucks, i know. ( :( )
All you can do is hope that things will work out, im sure she feels upset about this too and to be honest, these *breaks* usually don't last.
So you can be soothed by the fact that they almost always just prove that you love one another and can't be without one another.
As for hands-on things to do. Why not try making a good impression on her friends? letting them know you are trustworthy and a good person. This is bound to get back to her and can help a good deal. xxx
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (29 May 2007):
 I have to say you probably made a mistake by going out with your ex, however innocent it may have been. In your girlfriends eyes that was the last thing she wanted you to do and you went and done it. Confiding in your ex instead of waiting to confide with your present girlfriend just undermines everything.
It is easy to use your ex as a crutch at times of need because of the times and memories you have shared, but in your position i would of never have done that.
Give her the time to think and the space to hopefully realise that she can trust you. In her eyes now you have to earn that trust back, even though the meeting was innocent.
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