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writes:Theres this one girl... We have been talking for about 10 months now. Shes was in a relationship when we first started talking... I didnt care, although it came to bite me in the ass later. 4 months into that "friendship" we had.. we spent alot of time together... kissin,foreplay, but never sealed the deal. She TOLD me she liked me alot... and if it wasnt for her boyfriend (which is her first i may add) then we would be together. Recently, we would get in little arguments then eventually start talking to each other again. I try to quit her but eventually i end up missing her or she would tell me she misses me but when i bring up her wanting to be with me or hanging out or something. She starts acting like she never liked me or will like me ever again... IDK if shes playing games, leading me on, or just unsure of herself. What should i do? What is she doing? HELP PLZ! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do think she is leading me on... but i cant help fallin in the trap of me liking her... i could tell when we used to be together alot she liked me... but now i cant tell... If 2 people are trying hard to quit each other... but end up talking everytime doesnt that mean something? PS i think she really loooooves the attention...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do think she is leading me on... but i cant help fallin in the trap of me liking her... i could tell when we used to be together alot she liked me... but now i cant tell... If 2 people are trying hard to quit each other... but end up talking everytime doesnt that mean something? PS i think she really loooooves the attention...
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reader, James_Michael  +, writes (8 August 2010):
 By the sounds of this, this girl does like you a lot. Which is why when it comes up to wanting to be with you, she acts like nothing ever happened because she is trying to stop the feelings for you while she is feeling bad about cheating on her boyfriend. Personally, you should stop talking if you can't handle it just being friendship and delete her number/email etc. because a leopard never changes it's spots and if she's cheating on her current boyfriend, she'll cheat on you too, I learnt that the hard way. There will be someone nice out there for you. Honestly, you seem a nice enough guy to care this much about a girl. Move on, there's not only more but better fish in the sea kid. :)
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reader, xXJDXx +, writes (8 August 2010):
Dude, she's leading you on... It's like she enjoys the attention but slaps you back everytime things get a little close for comfort. Leave it be and perhaps tell her fella? He don't deserve you two 'fooling around' behind his back, how would you feel if that was happening to you? Her first it not she's a skank! Do yourself a favour and leave it be ? sorry to be blunt but had to be said. Good luck!
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reader, jrunlucky +, writes (8 August 2010):
 she's prolly really confused as to what to do with herself and her body. maybe her boyfriend isnt filling her enough sexually. i suggest you stop with the sexual stuff and go back to friends cuz thats only going to hurt you. it will especially be a good thing to stay away when her boyfriend finds out. you seem like an honest guy who just wants to be loved but in the case your in (in the bf's eyes) your the bad guy. when in fact she's the bad one.
just stay away for awhile. if she cant break up with her bf for you then she's not the one.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (8 August 2010):
 Hey :)
This does sound confusing! First off, why are you both kissing etc when she's in a relationship? If she's being dishonest to her boyfriend what makes you think she's being honest with you?
It could be she's trying to "quit" you too and that acting like she doesn't like you will cause you to think she doesn't like you... so that things cool off and you can forget about each other? It could also be that she doesn't want to leave her boyfriend because he was her first??
Just talk to her, be upfront. Ask her who she wants and tell her you're not willing to wait around for her. Tell her she's confusing you and if she doesn't want to be with you to just tell you. It will be difficult but you need to find the truth out from her, it's not fair on you to keep you guessing, right?
The truth may hurt, but will it hurt more if you stick around not knowing with her messing you around?
I hope it works out for you
xxx
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