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writes:Hello, I am just wondering if having friends is worth it? I have had friends before, but after a while, they always end up dying or moving 3000 miles away, to the point where I am questioning if friendship is real. Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 May 2014):
 Of course it's real . At least, it can be, not all the people you hang out with or spend time with socially you can actually call them friends. But if you get to that point, it's always worth it. For the time that lasts, and that your destiny has in store for you.
Sure, people may move away . Or die , even.
But what you are saying it's a bit like saying that's not worth having parents, it's better to become an orphan at a very early age- because chances are that your parents will die before you, and that will suck, really suck.
Be here NOW. Enjoy and relish what you have now. If circumstances , or fate, take away from you people you like or even love.... there's always room for more in future. The Universe has an uncanny way of closing a window on you,. and then opening a door.
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reader, RevMick  +, writes (6 May 2014):
 Hi,
Friends will come and go throughout your life, some will stay with you for 10 minutes others 10 years.
I think friends and friendship are two different things. To some people, a friend can be a person you are seeing on a regular basis, like a boy friend or girl friend. Friend can also be an acquaintance, or someone you work with or spend time with.
The analogy I like most is:
'A friend will help you move a couch, a true friend will help you move a body.' Simple as that.
I think you are hung up on thinking of a friend as someone who is always there. Where as I have friends who emigrated, that I see maybe once every 10 years. But, get us in a room together and it's like we're still at school and have been together every day.
Friendship is the act of being friendly to someone, whether you know them or not. From what you describe, you are looking for true friendship, which often comes further down the line.
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