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writes:me and my boyfriend are close and starting to develop a closer relationship.i am a virgin and i am pretty sure he has had sex before. this makes me nervous because what if he expects stuff from me and i have no idea what to do.i want to talk to him about it but i have no idea how to bring up the subject with out being blunt, sounding stupid or making the situation uncomfortable.help?
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reader, charliesdevil73  +, writes (3 December 2010):
 If you want to talk to him, just do it. There is no problem in being blunt. When you are in an intimate relationship, you should be able to discuss anything. And don't worry about sounding stupid, he will probably love you even more for wanting to take the next step in developing a closer bond by talking about the "taboo' subjects. It shows him that you feel comfortable enough to trust him with your thoughts and feelings. About him expecting things...he shouldn't. If you talk to him and he says he would like to have sex, you decide. If you say no and he pushes, he's not the right guy for you. You should NEVER be pressured into something by anyone. If you open and tell him your feelings about it, and he's a good guy, he will wait for you to be ready. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): Dont let him push you. Take it from some one who knows if you are pushed into having sex you wont feel comfortable with it any other time. I know it will be embarrassing but you have got to get some nerve and talk to your boyfriend.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (2 December 2010):
 It is never right for him to expect anything of you. He should also not push you to do anything you're not comfortable with. That would be a big red flag and you should leave the relationship if he were to do that.
Honestly, I wouldn't say anything just yet. Do what feels natural. If it feels natural to start getting sexual, then make your confession. There is no rush. A good guy will cherish the fact that you're a virgin and will treat you right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): just flat out ask him
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