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writes:there are a lot of girls out there who are mainley looking for sugar daddies or guys with money and dont care about other things, are they gonna get hurt in the end? also, does this mean they have given up on love?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 March 2011):
 Wheeler... you're a guy. Yes, could see that from your response before I checked what the account said about your gender. You're way off when it comes to your "penis" logic. Women can't just fake it either. If we're not attracted to a man we can't fake getting wet, we can't fake our body's reaction. And a man can easy get a hard on by just thinking of something sexy. And, there's plenty of guys who marry rich old ladies. Maybe you haven't seen it, but there's about as many male gold diggers as there are female gold diggers. Penis or no has no impact in this. Haven't you for example ever heard of a boy-toy?
Gold digger is not only a word used for women. There are plenty of gold digging men out there, or free-riders as they are also called. And either way, these people are as happy as can be, they chose for themselves what is important for them. And love alone never saved a relationship, so if they value something else above love, such as financial stability, then who are we to judge. I don't pity nor envy them, because all people make the choices in life that they feel are right for them regardless of how complete strangers view their life choices.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): Women who look for money are the ones who fall flat man... cause in relationships its values, morals, and overall personality that keep people together, not money. I dont tell women I have a six figure legal settlement comin my way cause of trust issues, and materialism, and also well u said it, gold diggin. Its like eddie murphy in coming to america, pretending to be someone youre not can show a person who you really can be. If youre rich, who cares, just dont advertise it and youll see people be genuine...then once they build that trust with you and you disclose the wealth and you notice some changes, then you know the c*** is up to no good lol. Hope this helps. Good luck.
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reader, Wheeler +, writes (4 March 2011):
 They have not given up on love, by any means, they just love something called money. And they have chosen to pursue money as the ultimate prize, regardless of whether love is included in the package.There is a distinct difference that separates men and women. It may seem obvious, but here me out. Men have a penis, and women do not. And here is my point. You don't see men regularly going out and marrying a rich unattractive woman just because she has money and will be able to give them a great lifestyle BECAUSE men have to get an erection. It's that simple. Men know that no amount of money can cause them to get an erection when being intimate with an unattractive woman.On the other hand, a woman does not have to worry about getting an erection, so if she is not really interested in the man (with money) she can still feign a degree of attraction, and when it comes time to "earn" what she has by having sex, she can pretend to be into it enough to satisfy the man.Another reason is that there are many women who decide early in life that they want to marry a rich man. They do not have a back-up plan for gainful employment of their own. And they do not invest years into higher education to earn their own way into wealth. We call these women "gold diggers".We see it all the time. The smoking-hot woman that is eating dinner at a pricey restaurant with the balding, chubby, greasy, 56-year-old man with an annoying laugh. Will they somehow be punished for their decision to pursue money above all else? Not really. Because many times they achieve that goal, especially if they are attractive. Life is not fair.But, they will not experience true love most of the time. And you could say that is punishment in itself. They will give their youthful years to some gross dude, get paid, and ultimately divorce or get the money when he dies. Maybe they could find true love later? But what price can you give on your own life? What price can you put on twenty years of your youth?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): More than three quarters of the women I've known over the years emphasize money as their number one priority. Being an attractive, single male living alone, I get hit on by these women a lot. Something tells me 'men with money' lack certain other 'attributes'.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (4 March 2011):
The only cases where I've seen beneficial marriages happen is between men of the western developed countries marry women from asia or eastern-europe. Then it's not so much about money as it is about the quality of life and living standards. We especially have a lot of Thai women marrying Norwegian men, and Russian women marrying Norwegian men. Whether or not they love their new husband is something I can not speculate in, but I think these women value quality of life, and a peaceful home, over "love" with difficulties and unhappiness. Love alone is never enough to make a good relationship, and you can learn to love someone. The most extreme case I guess is a friend of mine who's grandfather at 60+ married a 20 year old Thai woman. But then again, the worse cases are when these men treat their women bad, using the fact that their citizenship depends on the marriage against them. In the worst case they are killed by their new husband. My ex's mother came to Norway with him and his sister, and she was shot by her new husband in their own home. That's the dark side of it, and unfortunately not that unusual. As for women from the western modernized world.. I don't know if any of them are looking for sugardaddies to marry. Perhaps some, but I've yet to meet one.
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reader, TEM +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Money has always been attractive. My own mother use to say, "It's just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor man." Just because someone marries another with money, doesn't necessarily mean they don't love them.However, when you see a young, pretty, girl, with a wealthy older man, you do wonder. There are the trophy wives that you would think value money more than love. So, rather than think they looked for love and gave up, I prefer to think they value financial security more than love. If the man values youth and beauty more than companionship, that's just a reflection of his values. It seems superficial, but who are we to judge?Are they going to get hurt in the end? We all take that risk. Some relationships are riskier than others. If you don't have much in common with your spouse, it can be a very lonely marriage. They say money can't buy happiness, but maybe for some it does.
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reader, StarryEyes101  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 I think those girls are out for the money. No love in it at all. Then i see it as others may be out for the security, not having to worry about money again. Or they could be like me and prefer the older gent. Not like OAP's or anything lol. If they ain't in it for love then no i don't think they'll get hurt. Just hurt for losing the money. Then if you are in it for the love then yeah it's gonna hurt! But, if it's like a teen/early twenties with a 60+ guy then that's insane.I hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): Probably love is security to them. Just because a girl wants to marry a guy with money doesn't mean she will get hurt or doesn't care about other things. Maybe she just wants stability for her and her future children and not have to put her kids in daycare.
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