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writes:My boyfriend is going to Las Vegas this upcoming Thanksgiving weekend. He has only gone on a few trips without me,but NEVER to a place like Las Vegas." Whatever happens in Vegas,stays in Vegas." I am horrified of this quote. He is going with his older sister and her husband,but he also told me some of his friends are going for a 21st birthday, and I have a feeling he is going to hang out with them too. These boys are wild and single..I know what it sounds like,I don't trust my boyfriend..but I do! It is just the fact of where he is going. He found out about the trip a week and a half ago,so it was too late for me to get it off work..I work in retail and EVERYONE has to work 'Black Friday'. Should I be mad that he is just up and leaving even though I cannot go?? Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 November 2010):
 My friend who just got back from Vegas would say that it only stays there until you come home in a wheel chair. Yeah, she tore her ACL dancing at Coyote Ugly...
The others are right, this is your insecurity and really nothing you should be mad at him about. Trust your boyfriend. Vegas isn't a giant orgy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): The problem isn't him OR Vegas. It's you. You have insecurities about the relationship. If the relationship is the problem, then you can do nothing except work on it when he gets back.
Don't assume Vegas is this vacuum of lust and debauchery that sucks all people in and spits them out broke and sodomized. It's not like that. If he cares for you and has any self control, it will be fine. And even if he does get the inevitable lap dance, who cares...its not like he's banging some girl. Its all part of the entertainment.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 November 2010):
This is just something you have to accept. There is nothing you can do. You can't get mad at him for going. You can't even really get mad at those he is going with. He's going with his sister and her husband, so it's very unlikely he'll cheat.
You say you trust him. So trust him.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (24 November 2010):
 The issue here isn't Vegas, its more your relationship with your guy. If he wants to cheat he'll manage to do it anyway. In fact, speaking as someone who's (generally unwittingly) been the person with whom men have cheated, I can tell you that opportunity is only a part of the story.
Vegas is a gorgeous place where as much fun can be had keeping your pants on as with them off. (I've tried both. All in all, if it wasn't for the fact that I came out a winner at the casinos on the more 'sexual' trip, I'd say I had just as much fun each time)
In fact most people who go there only lose their money, I guess. If you can trust him to go for a night on the town with his friends in your own town, it's the same with Vegas.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): I've been to Vegas with my hubby. Although there is a seedy under tone, its also just a really fun colorful place. If someone is the type who cheats, they'll do it whereever they are. I doubt your bf is a cheater so being in Vegas won't influence that.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (24 November 2010):
No..you shouldn't be mad. I've gone to Vegas a few times without boyfriends and sure Vegas is indeed a good time, but it's not THAT crazy. Sure it's called sin city and there's gambling, dance clubs, and strip clubs everywhere but you just have to trust him, plus it's November. If you were to go with a bunch of guys you wouldn't have had a good time anyway. The best time I did have was my 21st b-day and that's because we ran into some guys that had money to throw around for tables, drinks, and limos (which you can sometimes get for free anyway) so unless they're a bunch of "ballers" which I doubt, they're probably going to be having a good time with each other. Don't worry and plan a girls trip to Vegas next time :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): You have good reason to worry...as there is lots of temptation in that city. I would try to talk with him to set boundaries so that no trust is violated and you have good peace of mind. I just hope he makes the right decisions as I did. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): Except herpes. That shit follows you home.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 November 2010):
 There's nothing you can do about it, he's going with his older sister and her husband plus some of his friends will be there. It doesn't mean he's going to be hanging out with them at all times. If you trust your boyfriend then there should be no problem.
Don't let that silly quote get to you.
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