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writes:Hello, about a year and a half ago I dated a guy I was crazy about. We only dated for four months and only saw each other maybe ten times. We broke up on good terms, but basically because I wanted something more serious than him. He started contacting me about four months after we broke up. We exchanged a number of back and forth texts over the months. I stopped responding when I started dating someone else, but then started again when I stopped dating that guy. We planned to meet up one night for coffee, he said he'd contact me that night but never did. I know I'd recently gone through a break-up and I think he had as well.I removed him as a friend from a social networking site later to avoid having to think about him and now he is trying to contact me again asking why. I like this guy, if he wanted something serious with me I'd likely jump at the chance, but I don't know if there is even a chance that he could be after that. What does this guy want?
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (12 August 2010):
 This is one of those occasions where you have to be brutally honest and say to him look I like you but I'm not interested in being friends. If you want to have a serious relationship then I'd love to too but if not I need to move on.
Good luck doll.
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (12 August 2010):
 It's hard to say what he wants, a lot of guys keep their little black books and when they end one relationship they go back to the little book of past lovers and friends and try to pick up where they left off, to them it is a lot easier than striking it out alone.
I seriously doubt that he is looking now for a serious relationship by contacting you, if he were, he'd make it pretty clear that he wanted another chance with you.
It is pretty much up to you if you want to give him the time of day or not. If you do want to see him again, I would advise taking things very slowly rather than getting overly involved and I would continue to still date others if an until he steps up to the plate and asks you for something serious.
At the very least, I guess you can be assured he still finds you attractive, but then why would he not?
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reader, JennyBuckwell  +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Sound like all this guy wants is a bit of your attention and to know that you are still passionately crazy about him as you used to be. Everyone likes to feel wanted and it seems as if this guy still wants to feel wanted by you hence the messaging etc but if he wanted anything more than that he would have acted upon it by now. My advice is stop giving this guy any attention whatsoever as all he's looking for is a little ego boost.
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reader, blakjacq +, writes (11 August 2010):
 well you could ask him? But if u dont want ot do that, my guess would be he likes you ...alot... enough to keep contacting you, but not enough to pursue it seriously. That or he's scared of a serious relationship. be careful with this guy. You emotions are sensitive to him. it's a terrible situation to allow yourself to be in if your sensitive to him and he's numb to you. Enjoy his fun, but try not to take him seriously. If at some point he wants to be taken seriously by you he'll have to show it not tell it. a wise someone once said:
"never make someone your priority, if you are only their option"..... or somehting like that. lol :P
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): YOu know, the only way to find out what this guy wants is to ask him. But you will need to be ready for his response. He may not know... he may just like to keep you around because your affection for him gives him a buzz but not want to get into it with you. He may have commitment issues. I suspect you are a "feel good" girl. That is someone a guy likes to have in his corner to make him feel attractive whilst he continues to play the field.
If I were you, I would be honest. I would tell him I am into him, and that I want to take it further, but I'm not prepared to be a fall back. I would tell him that I am not able to keep casual texting or facebooking as I have strong feelings, so I hope he understands that all that will have to stop. It needs to be all or nothing. BUt hey... that's just the way I play... and I would be entirely ready to give him up if he was not into me for what I wanted. That's the key.
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