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writes:Hello everyone. Last night when I went to sleep, no dream no nothing, and this morning I wake up, and i got out for a bit, theb went back to bed rough two hours later. I had felt it was needed. Then about an hour later, I'm waking up screaming and crying my eyes out. I had a horrible nightmare. It was about my boyfriend doing drugs then after confronting him about it, we went to my house, and he became really violent. Throwing stuff at me, hitting me in the face, kicking me. Just horrible things. But see he has never ever put a hand on me in any situation. So I'm thinking to myself why did I have that dream and why him being the one to hurt me. I had recently lost my aunt to a drug over does and it has been the hardest thing on me. But I'm over the grieving. So it comes back to why him? And what does this mean? Can someone please help me with this because its really hard for me to even want to sleep now. I'm scared it will happen again.
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reader, Celest  +, writes (29 July 2011):
 Hello dear... Of course we should know if your boyfriend is on drugs or if he has a violent temper. But if he's not, and if you love him, I think that your trying subconsiously to interpret your loss differentely. You might feel betrayed for your aunt, you might feel that she let you down and you are very hurted within. So you might afraid that your beloved ones they will hurt you somehow... It is your mind that trying to find a way to deal with your subconscious fears. It is always surealistic when it happens but it is also a healing process, but can easily be long and tedius. Take it easy and if your dreams will not come soon to an end, you should ask help from a councelor..I hope that will you find the peace that you need. All my best!!!
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reader, mrg123  +, writes (29 July 2011):
 Well I think we need to know a bit more. He may not be violent but if he does actually do drugs, this maybe a straight product of a fear you have. Alternatively, he may not have been violent to you but has somebody else you intimately related too been violent towards you because of drugs? If so, it maybe the case that the dream is simply a memory where your boyfriend is cast in the role of the person who actually was violent too you because he is somebody you also care about it.
Obviously, the fear with these type of things is that they are going to come true; which when a dream is particularly vivid is always a concern as is the concern that it will repeat. Unless there are grounds to fear it will come true all you can do is rationalise yourself out of this and list in your mind all the reasons it wont. Try and relax before you sleep and 'take yourself away mentally' listen to music, do something that relaxes you and takes your mind and focus away from any potentially negative places.
Finally, you have to consider you may not be as over the grieving as you think you are; as a process coming to terms with the loss of a close and well loved relative is a long process and in some ways it is never truly 'over'; the dream could represent your still unresolved feelings regarding this and you projected onto your bf mainly because he is another treasured and loved person in your life. Maybe you need to talk it through with somebody? Good luck xx
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