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writes:help me untangle this weird love thing I am in please... recently I got together with a guy and its been great... we were talking the other day about a whole trust issue thing and he mentioned to me that if I cheat he wouldn't bother chasing me or even accepting my apology... he said that it wouldnt really bother him, as in he would care for abit and then thats it... the worst thing he actually has a history of cheating and im just worried that he may do it to me..What does he mean that it wouldnt bother him if i cheated... thats really weird right or is it me just reading to much into it Reply to this Question
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reader, InterCntlCHmp  +, writes (27 November 2008):
He has most likely been cheated on in the past. Men tend to romanticize women in their heads. It really takes us by surprise when we get cheated on and it really fucks us up. (Obviously it also hurts women when they get cheated on and that sucks too)Your man is young and it seems has taken a stance of emotional distance or coldness to prevent himself from further hurt or humiliation. Be careful with this relationship. If he cannot communicate with you effectively it's best not to put too much effort into. You really can't do anything about how he feels just make sure that he doesn't use his "threat" of walking away and not saving the relationship as a way to gain control over your or some power in the relationship. Give him some time to grow up and learn more about life and relationships. He could turn out alright. But don't lose sleep over his trust issues.
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reader, Boredatwork +, writes (25 November 2008):
 Yes thats exactly what he meant, he would walk away and not try to save the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): Could he have meant it wouldn't bother him as in he'd write you off and he'd never see you again?
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