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writes:hi this is my first time on here, what do you do when a guy only wants you for sex, and leads you on and plays games with your head. idk i think there should be an explanation for this, but im not sure any ideas or opinions??? Reply to this Question
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reader, auntyR  +, writes (24 February 2011):
if you are not happy with having a no strings attatched fling with this guy then honey move on!
there are plenty more fish in the sea. So don;t waste your time on him.
I've been there myself and you wish and wish for him to want you as his gf, but it never happens. So bite the bullet and say bye bye.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for the well given advice i will be sure to think about it and get back to you and see how it goes
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (22 February 2011):
It depends on whether or not you want to be used or not. But casual sex like this will only cheapen you, and make you feel like crap. It sounds like you want a love to love you, and be in a relationship with you. If so, leave this guy as he will only cause you heart ache. It will also look bad to any other guy that does want to love you and be with you.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 He just wants a 'friend with benefits' - unless you are happy with that kind of a arrangment - rather send him on his way.
Talk is cheap and a guy will say anything to get a girl into bed - so dont fall for his cheap talk.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 As every Aunt on DC will have written at some point " actions speak louder than words ". People who are easily led on and get their heads messed with make the mistake to value words over actions.
Talk is cheap.
It takes nothing to say " I am gonna leave my gf one of these days "or " I love you but I am not ready for a relationship " or any other bullshit that gets the boy what he wants ( sex ) without him having to invest time, feelings and effort in you.
So : ignore what he says, watch what he DOES, and he won't be able to lead you on.
What do you do with a guy who only wants casual sex ? Simple : if you are fine with casual sex only, you play along. If you are not, you apply a powerful kick to his behind ( metaphorically speaking ! ) and tell him to go waste someone else's time.
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reader, Rose22  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 i once had a guy that pretended to like me and lead me on the same way this guy seems to be leading you on. he used to tell me her loved me, but i think deep down he only wanted me for one thing.sex. i didnt give it to him and he gave uo after a while. the thing is i spent so much personal energy into trying to make him want me for something else i exhausted myself. dont let this happen to you!!when a guy only wants you for one thing you leave. you tell him that you cant be with him if he only values your vagina.the only thing this man will bring you is a sore heart. dont waste time on people like him, there are many other great men out there that you can have!!drop him and keep looking, the right guy might be just around the corner!good luck!!redrosexxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): What do you do?Typically, you stop having sex with him. It sounds like you'de like more than just sex. Even if you think you want to settle for just sex, I suspect you'll probably get bored with a purely sexual relationship. Ultimatley, you need to decide what you want out of the relationship you have. You can stick around and hope he develops feelings or you can act on reality. At least you are perceiving the situation clearly and aren't trying to convince yourself that you're in love with this guy or that he's in love with you. That sort of self delusion seems pretty common with girls your age. I might tell him that you aren't interested in sex anymore. If you like him, it could make him step up his game. If it doesn't work out, you haven't lost anything and you'll make yourself availabe to other people who may care for you. Good luck.
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