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anonymous
writes:well i will soon be 21 and i cant feel worse about myself i havent even had my first kiss yet not that i havent had offers even for sex but im not into sex without being in a commited relationship and im only attracted to ceartin pple (not shallow they just have to have a spunky personality)this girl at work likes me..but problem is she is seeing a married man who is supposedly seperated from his wife and getting a divorce "eventually" this kind of stuff just always seems to happen to me she is the first girl iv asked on a date in 6 years (the other was when i was in middle school)i just feel hurt and lonely all the time,im insecure saying to myself im not good enough and that's why she is seeing this guy seeing her day after day and not being able to say or do anything is tearing me apart.i have an hour drive home every night and i just cant help it the tears just flow every single night.i know this was long but if you have any general advice for me or when this freaking nightmare im going through is going to end i will be so gratefull!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (22 February 2011):
 The whole question of why you can't get a date, no one on here can answer. I don't personally know you as a person, so I can't tell you what you're doing wrong. Have you asked out girls? Perhaps you're a little shy? A lot of girls won't approach you and give you a smack on the lips or outright ask for sex.
Advice I can offer you is that you need to put yourself out there, if you're standing aside wondering why you're not getting a girl that's preventing you from getting motivated to go look for a girlfriend. Secondly, relax and give it some time to happen. You have to invest some effort and do a little legwork to get what you want. That even applies to getting a girlfriend.
Now, it's best not to ask out a girl who is already dating someone else. She's not 100% available to you and it will only cause harm dating her. This chick is a relationship with a MARRIED man, it doesn't sound like her morals match yours. Thus she is not the type of girl you're looking for. Stay away from her.
Although I can't tell the future, if you give it some time and make a list of what you want in a girl then go a man hunt for her..I'm confident that you will eventually find what you're looking for.
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reader, powerman +, writes (22 February 2011):
 Sounds like you need to find a girl who is not attached to anouther person. stop looking at girls you are around, look in areas you dont know anything about them. I think you may want what someone else has and not know what you realy want for yourself. Go to a church and meet girls there, you may find a peace as well!
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