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*mbercich
writes:oki so im dying inside becuase my boyfriend doesnt even want to look at me because of all teh shame he had put apon me and my daughter for what hes put us through. Being a addict so he goes to get help for crack buts still drinks alot, and hasnt been keeping a job i have all this anger for him but i jsut want him to show me affection but he cant because hes embarresed so i gave him a ultimatem go or stay make your choice, he said fine ill go, of course had to be a man and not listen cause im "bossin him around" so what the hell do i do to get this guy to listen to me????????????? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): sweetheart, i agree with all the ppl above me. they're right. you would not picture a drunk guy when u would think of ur ideal guy. you would not picture someone who does listen to you. He might not have meant that he wants to leave you, considering he's a man thats where his ego plays a role. but there's more good than bad i see in him.
im sorry but you shouldn't raise your daughter around a drug addic.
i hope whatever happens with u happens for the best. Things that happen today we don't see the reasons behind them but at the end of the day everything has a good reason.
thats y we say 'things happen for reasons'
believe in yourself and make urself strong to get to a decision
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reader, ambercich +, writes (18 November 2007):
ambercich is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your insight
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2007): Please dont beat yourself up, he is an addict and will never hear anything you are saying. You dont deserve to have to live a life like this. If he has gone off then it is hard but let him go. Let him stay where he is and you make the decisions. If he comes back then i wouldnt have him back until he has kicked the habit, if he doesnt then dont let him back. Or just decide to stay away from him altogether.
take care
xx
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reader, rcn  +, writes (18 November 2007):
 He's an addict, there's not much you can do to get him to listen to you. It's hard, but sometimes the best thing is to let them go and pray some day they get the help they need for themselves. You don't need to put yourself or your daughter through this.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (18 November 2007):
 If you write a list of things you want in your ideal man... what would they be?
They wouldn't be - drug addict.
gives up on family easily.
doesn't listen to you.
drinks a lot
too "embarressed" to show you affection would they?
He's made his choice hun, move on with your life. This guy gave up on you. Is that someone you WANT to be with??
You can do better than that. You're worth more than that.
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