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writes:I have been dating this guy for about a month and a half and he hasn't mentioned Valentine's Day at all. He is a really nice thoughtful guy, he goes out of his way to do nice little things for me and I have seen him do the same for friends of his. I don't understand why he hasn't mentioned it to me. He has seemed very interested and communicative otherwise and this is the only thing that makes me question whether or not he's interested. Is he just not asking me because he's not looking for anything serious or what's going on? What do I do if he never mentions it, do I just pretend nothing happened? Reply to this Question
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reader, didda123  +, writes (13 February 2009):
 I think he probably has something up his sleeve considering you have said he is a very considerate guy normally, i think he is probably going to surprise you with something just make sure you have a card ready for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): lol uncle phil, if a girl finds out you gave her tesco flowers I don't think it will go down to well. ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): He probably doesn't want to set a precedent by doing something special - unless he's maybe got a surprise up his sleeve. I thought the surprise element was the way to go.
Not much use to you in the states - but for any UK romantics - Tesco are selling bunches of a dozen red roses for a fiver. The decent cards are more expensive than that!
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reader, myessence +, writes (13 February 2009):
As you mentioned in your letter...there is interaction between the two of you...In my opinion, I do not think it is wrong to ask him what his plans are for Valentines Day. Depending on his answer, you will have a clear prospective if he is interested in pursuing the relationship to the next level or he only wants to date you casually. That would help eased your mind too. After you popped the question.. you would have clarity on this guy's intention.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): Guys don't give a crap about a valentines day to be honest, it's a girls day, for single girls to feel inadequate and either stay at home eating and watching dvd's or go out on a desperate search for Mr. Right, and for girlfriends to expect some grand romance.
It's very possible he doesn't know what to do, it has been only a month, it's very difficult to know whther to go all out on an expensive romantic night or what, with a girl you've only been with a month. Especially seeing as you've dropped no hints as to what you expect from him.
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reader, SoftlyCaress  +, writes (13 February 2009):
 You dont worry about it I have been with a man for awhile and he is like that also isnt romantic at all.....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 February 2009):
 Give him a card ( or email). You guys have only been going out for a month and a half so maybe he's not sure how you would like to celebrate it.
You could ask him out for a dinner for Valentine's.. It's not written any where that the guy has to make the moves all the time...
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