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writes:I'm 16 and a junior in high school and I'm deeply in love with a good friend of mine. I've had a crush on him for a little under a year but lately, I think my feelings have escalated. He's all I can think about and every time I do my heart feels so warm and happy and like it's going to explode. The problem is, he's got this girlfriend that he's totally in love with. They seem very happy together and she's so sweet and nice. Sometimes when I see them together, it causes me physical pain. I know I'm a terrible person for feeling this way but I don't think I can take it anymore. It's not possible he feels the same but I feel like I need to tell him how I feel...what should I do?
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reader, Entirely Unique  +, writes (20 March 2010):
 You're not a terrible person for feeling the way you do, we don't control how we feel or who we feel those feelings towards its how you deal with those feelings that matters.
If you feel you need to tell him then do so, only you really know what is right for you to do, he might even surprise you, but telling him might also change your friendship, I would like to hope if the friendship is a good and strong one it won't but feelings can sometimes make people feel uncomfortable and change how they act around you.
Maybe test the waters a little bit first and see how that goes.
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reader, insearchof69 +, writes (20 March 2010):
I would tell him how you feel, maybe he feels the same way as you do . Tell him you don't want to ruin his relationship, or your friendship...Holding things in will only escalate into frustration , then you might just loose him all together.
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