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writes:hey, i'm a guy and not all that comfortable around girls. What i'm really trying to do right now is to just get a bunch of girls as friends. I'm kinda a shy guy and I'm just wondering what I can do to become friends with alot of girls/ know what you girls are looking for in a guy-girl friendship. -Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): btw-im not lookin for a gf, im 15 and im tryin to be friends w/ a girl without having her like me
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 Just talk to girls as you would a boy. If you go to school with girls then you automatically have a common ground, you can complain or joke about teachers you have and make that initial connection with them. It's not much at first, but it's a start.
If any of your guy friends have friends who are girls or girlfriends, just speak up in a conversation, ask the girl questions.
I know that at your age it can be difficult to talk to the opposite sex, but just relax and be your self.
What girls seek in friendships is I think the same as most people, regardless of sex, which is to have someone they can rely on, trust, talk to about whatever and to just have fun with.
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2011): 1. Be there for them
2. Don't be afraid to ask them for help
3. Be yourself
4. Ask questions [thi fills silences and gets things rolling. Hopefully she will answer your Q with a Q and so on...]
5. Don't do stuff you are comfy with to impress them. Personally I think boys who show off are annoying.
I believe there are two kinda friendships I have with my guy mates. The guys I just banter and joke with. And then the guys I would trust and I know would be there for me. It depends what kinda boy you want to be. But stop giving yourself such a hard time. Girls aren't that different from you, I promise. You seem a decent guy. Just be the type of friend to the girl that you would want the girl to be as a friend for you. Oh and don't be horrible about your girl mates to your boy mates. ;)
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (9 January 2011):
 You just need to be yourself and talk to girls like you would talk to anyone. Get to know them by asking questions about them and just generally being friendly, you will feel more comfortable talking to them once you get to know them a bit better.
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reader, Miss Misunderstood +, writes (9 January 2011):
 Well I think what any girl wants/needs in a good friendship with a guy is for the guy to understand them, and for the guy to try to help them when they need it the most.. and more than likely she will do the same for you.
And also, don't try to be something you're not, just be yourself despite what other people may say or do. When you do these things, you are surely going to make yourself alot of great friends. Maybe even a girlfriend. :)
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