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writes:Hi, I have been in a relationship for 6 months and it progressed really quickly, i dunno it was like 2 magnets being drawn together but we also fought an awful lot, it was a lot on petty small things but also bigger things like him being so involved in his work that he wouldnt call me and a week could go by with no sign of him, stuff like that. i also had a few issues cause i wasnt ready to settle down with one guy yet and he agreed that if i wanted some fun i could go but i had to tell him and i had to use protection at all times i agreed. Anyways 2 weeks before the holidays we broke up again and we didnt see each other. 3 days before he left 4 vacation he phoned me, he wanted to talk to me but i told him i couldnt cause i had already made plans, i didnt see or hear from him for 2 months. i had decided that i need to forget about him and i just went wild, i did all silly dangerous stuff, slept around with dozens of guys just to try forget him but i coudnt, he just wudnt go away. well he phoned me when he came back and said he wanted to see me. i told him i thought he was dead and what did he want from me? he said he wanted to talk things over, i said i was busy.Three days later he phoned, i was by a party and he wanted to talk to me i said ok bcause hearing his voice made my heart leap. i met him and we talked and hung out he seemed different and i felt so at peace with him, it was different somehow, i told him all my frustrations in a soft soothing tone and he listened, i mean really listened! when i asked him why he continued calling me he told me he missed me, that he loved me and that he had tried to forget about me but he cudnt, he seemed like a different man, he wasnt bouncy and all over the place like he used to be. i slept with him that night and it brought us to another level.the thing i dont get is do couples fight like this... is this normal? Is this a good change or am I being led along? i donno what to make of it, i love him but am afraid. i mean, is the working too hard and not calling me a big factor to be worried about? please can someone help?and also it isnt only one side, sometimes he gets mad at me, sometimes i get mad at him. he calls me impatient when i get mad when he doesnt call but is that right? tnx
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 Honey all couples fight! My husband and I never fought till we got married then we went through a rough patch of fighting like cats and dogs.
Every couple has their rough spot..Sometimes a bunch of times, no one is perfect. Now if you guys have been arguing since day one, 24-7 then you two just aren't compatible.
He's not leading you on, because you were the one who kept brushing him off when he called you. If anything he's showing you how sorry he is and wanting to work things out!
Sometimes when I fight with my husband and things are getting too heated, I call a "time out". This means we separate, I go upstairs away from him, or I take a drive, go to a friend's house to vent, etc..In other words we taking a break from talking and each other to calm down. (Doesn't mean you're broke up) At the most we give ourselves a day, then calmly talk about our argument. You should try that!
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