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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid I take private piano lessons. The teacher is near the same age as me,(about 43). He seems shy and a bit nervous around women;you know, 'academic' looking; a bit 'geeky'.He also does transposition work for me on my music. I went round for a planned transposition session a few days ago and where I normally put my bag and sheet music, on his dining table, I found what I can only describe as a 'placed' copy of one of those 'dating' and 'guide to good relationship' manuals right where I needed to put my things. It wasn't a cheap text. It seemed thoughtfully written, (by it's cover - actually, the kind of thing I'd have bought myself, a few years ago but don't bother to buy anymore).I was surprised when I saw it. My gut feeling was to discreetly cover it over (it just looked too 'intimate' sittingthere and I was embarrassed for him. What I can't work out was if he meant me to see it and why he put it there? If he wanted to tell me he had a girlfriend, there are more direct ways. I've not emailed him since but I do need to be professional and thank him for his work - some of which, I think he's not asking me to pay for.The poignant thing is, I actually like him but I can't be sure what he was trying to do. I would hate to think it was a kind of 'cruel trick' to tease me. It is, after all, his house and he can read whatever he likes in it! Many thanks if you can shed light.
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 Don't read too much into it, he could've left it there accidentally, and if that were the case it would probably embarrass him if you brought it up. I agree with dirtball, he doesn't seem like the type to make the first move, so why don't you?
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (19 October 2010):
 i think you were meant to see it and make a comment.
next time your at a lesson, take a coffee break and while you are both relaxed, ask him about it in a positive manner.
just tell him you noticed it and were interested in it, and go from there.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (19 October 2010):
 I wouldn't read anything into it. He may have left it on purpose, or he may have left it on accident. He may have the book to prepare for a new GF, or he may have left it in hopes you'd see it and think it cute.
If you like him, there is no harm in telling him so. He sounds like the type that will not make that step himself so I doubt you have to worry about him having someone you didn't know about. Still, even if he does have someone, you don't know about them so you aren't doing anything wrong by expressing interest.
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