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*eacup1986
writes:Hello,Im new on here. My girlfriend broke up with me nearly two months ago. I thought we were doing fine and she just came out with it. She has ignored all my texts apart from the one that said i had some of her things and wanted to return them. She just replied and gave me an address to send them too. I'm really heart broken and confused. I really care for her and thought she felt the same. What gets to me more than anything is that she is ignoring me. I honestly havnt done anything wrong and we never argued about anything. One minute she tells me she loves me and the next is acting like she hates me. I sent her things to her and wrote a note saying that im sorry things have turned out the way they have and said thank you for loving me while we were together. I suppose i was expecting a reply in someway but none. I honestly want to move on but i feel like im in limbo with no closure. Is it normal for people to be like that?Do you think she will regret the way she has been?What could be going on in her head?
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (13 November 2007):
 Hi. Let me say that it is no surprise at all that you feel this way. It must be very frustrating for you to have made such an effort to get nothing back whatsoever, without seemingly any reason behind it.
I can't say I know for sure what she's thinking. If we had that power to read what goes on in a woman's mind, there would be a lot less secrets in this universe, that's for sure!
I will say, is she really worth going through this for? This is somebody you cared for. She knew that, and despite that she has more or less cut you out completely. If she had been the right girl for you in the first place, she wouldn't have left you, or would at the very least given you some sort of explanation.
As much as it's easier said than done, move on and forget about her. Go out with your friends, and do things you like to do. Somewhere down the road, somebody much better than her will come your way.
Good luck.
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reader, whiteshadow +, writes (13 November 2007):
 Is it normal for people to be like that? alot of Women are so stubborn, im really sorry to hear what happended.
Do you think she will regret the way she has been?What could be going on in her head? She will definatly regret it at some point im sure although it really does sound like she has a man in her life ..she could just be confused and not ready to committ though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): Try and get her to talk and ask her just what is going on. If she wont then just move and find someone who you so rightly deserve. You certainly dont deserve to be ignored like this. I think, and i could be wrong, she has met someone else and just hasnt got the gut to tell you. Just move on and make a new life for yourself.
take care
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reader, 209jess +, writes (13 November 2007):
hi,
Well i'm a woman and even i think its abit strange! it sounds like things may have got a little serious for her so she felt the need to get away. But ignoring you like that isn't on and it shouldn't be you who's feeling bad for it! From the sounds of things she's really selfish and doesn't feel she owes you an explanation... If it was me in your shoes and a guy had done this to me, i'd try my hardest to move on or 'pretend' you've moved on. try not to call or be in touch for a few weeks... you never know she might come running back!
Good luck and i hope evrything works out!
Jess
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reader, Confused8507  +, writes (13 November 2007):
 Well there are loads of things that could be going on. As for closure im not sure your going to get it. In my opinion id try and move on accept that she is going through something that may not include you. dont keep hopes up on getting back together but giver her the space she is begging for. You sound like a great guy and you will meet someone who is right for you. its hard now but a tub of icecream and titanic really help lol :P You just have to remind yourself it wasnt your problem it was her and theres nothing you could have done differently. Hope i helped !
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reader, Cat_87 +, writes (13 November 2007):
 Hi,
You sound like a really nice guy! Those are few to come by! Honestly you have done nothing wrong! You don't state many details of your relationship for example where there arguments? Or any other problems such as jealousy?
There could be many resons she left you! You have two choices you can face her head on, go round to hers or meet on neutral ground and ask her face to face. This would be painful for both as she seems unwilling to talk but you may be able to get an answer and possible closure. Or you can move on, give her space for a few months then ask her, she will then be more willing to talk.
Right now it may seem hard to move on but just get ur mates around you and hopefully with their support you will feel better soon!
Good Luck!
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