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writes:i have a problem.i have a lovely boyfriend who loves me and stufff like that.we've been together for a week.the problem is i have never french kissed and i have no experience with this and i'm afraid to do it.i told him this and he said no problem.he is 18 so he has experience.he tried twice,but i pulled away and said i'm sorry and he said no problem,we'll do this when you feel ready.even so,i think he really dislikes the fact that i don't want to do it.what can i do to get past this fear and be able to kiss him like this?any advice is welcomed,but please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): OMG i know exactly how you feel. the very first time i tried french kissing my boyfriend told me the next day that i was messing up badly, but he never knew that that was my first time, so he understood. But the very first time, i didn't know what to do and me and my bf were bumping teeths, and it was just really awkward and embarassing, but like on the 5th try i was the expert on it. now i even kiss better than my bf, hahah. Trust me, at first it is scary because you don't know what to do, but it you keep on practicing it becomes extremely easy, and now it's a piece of cake and i'm a pro when it comes to french kissing, lol well anyways good luck and hope this helped [=
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reader, RobL +, writes (7 September 2009):
 Rock 'n' roll said:"13-15. I take it your not even 16 yet then??, and he's 18."What's that gotta do with anything? That doesn't even come close to answering her question.---Safe to say, if he cares about you, he'll understand your situation. Ask him to be gentle, ask him to teach you, he's not going to laugh at you about it or anything.On the other hand, if he gets impatient with the fact that you don't want to do it, then he probably doesn't care about you in the way that you think he does.Short answer, tell him you're nervous, scared, unsure, but if you really want to try it, tell him that as well, and he should slowly but surely get you comfortable with it, and you'll both be french kissing soon after.~Rob
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): 13-15. I take it your not even 16 yet then??, and he's 18.
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (6 September 2009):
 Just put it out of your mind, let him take control till you get used to french kissing. Once you've done it once you will kick yourself about not doing it earlier!! :PJust relax with it, and being able to do it come naturally!Have fun and hope i helped!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): i know this is the same advice as everyone will give you and you will think its no help at all but it is i felt the same but kissing once you get over teh nervousness come really naturally you instinctevly know what to do and he wouldnt be with you if he didnt like you or if the no kissing was such a big deal he wouldnt be with you he loves you
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): Ok, i think you can turn this fear of yours into your advantage. :)Just be honest with him and say, you don't have much experience and that you want him to be gentle and to teach you. I guarantee that he'll be turned on like hell.However, if you don't like to continue to more serious stuff so early, tell him that also.And by the way, talking about everything honestly and open with him will almost always be the best answer. Men like women, who take initiative and know what they want or don't want. Not some closed girl, who does not say anything, and then complains that you don't understand her.Wish you everything well,
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