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female
age
30-35,
*oveitlongtime
writes:There is this teacher in my school who is new this year. I do not have him as my teacher so I don't understand why he constantly tries to talk to me all the time especially in the hallways. Half the time he ends up walking into school around the same time as me and insists he holds the door for me every morning/says hi to me all the time with my name at the end of the hello. He was also lingering around my health class this morning, and when he saw I went in the classroom he left. I know its not too much to base my thoughts on, but this has happened in one week. As a woman I know and other women know that we have good intuition when a man is over stepping, what can I do to be sure so I can stay away from it
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (11 February 2012):
 If women had such keen intuition when it came to men over stepping there wouldn't be so many seeking our guidance in extricating themselves from the common dilemas they end up in.
But you're right, you haven't given us much to go on here and if you had anything more incrimminating you'd have included it. If this teacher has questionable intentions, there doesn't seem to be any proof, especially if all this has only taken place in the span of one week.
What you're describing sounds to me like common courtesy.
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female
reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 February 2012):
 So far you haven't indicated anything creepy, the guy is just being polite, holding doors and saying Hi ,Jane etc.
The fact that you arrive at school at the same time "half of the times " is not strange at all,-unless you suspect him of lurking in the bushes and jumping out only when you arrive ?...
I don't discount female intuition, and if he should do something even remotely inappropriate under the pretense of being friendly, like asking you personal questions, or asking your phone no. or complimenting your physical aspect ,etc. I'd be the first to tell you : not walk, RUN to the principal and report him. But as things stand now,
either you are reading into things, or you are not ...but you can't report a teacher for being civil .
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female
reader, CindyCares +, writes (11 February 2012):
So far you haven't indicated anything creepy, the guy is just being polite, holding doors and saying Hi ,Jane etc.
The fact that you arrive at school at the same time "half of the times " is not strange at all,-unless you suspect him of lurking in the bushes and jumping out only when you arrive ?...
I don't discount female intuition, and if he should do something even remotely inappropriate under the pretense of being friendly, like asking you personal questions, or asking your phone no. or complimenting your physical aspect ,etc. I'd be the first to tell you : not walk, RUN to the principal and report him. But as things stand now,
either you are reading into things, or you are not ...but you can't report a teacher for being civil .
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reader, LovelyLemon +, writes (11 February 2012):
 Sounds a little creepy, you're right. First off, if he is making you feel unsafe or uncomfortable, you should talk to your principal or school counselor. Tell them that they need to keep an eye on this guy, and that he is showing an abnormal interest in you. It is their job to ensure that your school is a safe place.
Another thing you could try is maybe coming to school at a slightly different time so that there isn't that awkward door holding thing. Maybe get there a little early, or use a different entrance than usual if possible. You could also try to be sure to be with a friend most of the time. Safety in numbers.
Much love and Best wishes
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