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writes:basically me and my boyfriend have been together for two years and a couple of months. I love him with all my heart and we've known each other for years. but he is so jealous of everything! He doesn't like my friends he doesn't like me going out and he says that i shouldn't dress the way i do when i go out because i'm just attention seeking. but i just wanna look nice. i'm not interested in other guys. he questions me for hours about the night before if i do go out. And if i do eventually tell him that some guy did chat me up or try and dance with me he has a go at me for saying it i just cant win with him! another thing is he never makes any effort to come see me. i always have to come see him, and we dont go out we just sit in his flat with his mum! I just dont know what to do any more i'm not sure whether to end it or not! what do you think?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 April 2011):
You're the fourth or fifth person today who I would suggest needs to split up with their partner. Not a great day for love, but maybe a great day for the rest of your life at least.
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reader, confusedgirl2x +, writes (13 April 2011):
confusedgirl2x is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou're so totally right, thank you for your advice. It's just hard to let go!
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reader, macdubh712  +, writes (13 April 2011):
Listen, I was a Police Officer for 3 years and this is my take on this guy. I see "potential abuser" all over this. Abusers all have the same MO and he fits this MO. He's jealous, he tries to keep you from your friends, and he doesn't want to go out. I think you should be worried about where this relationship will go over more time, especially if you decided to move in with him. You say he questions you about outtings with friends before you go, and probably after, yes? Also, does he compliment you or does he make comments that either make you feel bad about yourself or make you doubt yourself as a person? Another thing, that he wants you to come see him is also suspicious to me. I think if you want to stay with him then you need some razor sharp talk with him to ensure that he understands what he is doing and that it won't be tolerated. If you decide you don't want this or he is unable or unwilling to cooperate with communication on this matter then DUMP HIS A**.
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reader, Abella +, writes (13 April 2011):
 in two years you have come to know who he really is and what he's all about. And i can't imagine how deflating it must be, wondering what the next spate of criticism will contain.There are two great expressions, :''Start as you mean to go on''And''think what this could become''You are putting up with all this unwarranted criticism. Is that what you want your life to consist of? Because it will not lessen with time. Right now he is insecure, a control freak, and insanely jealous. Put up with that for a few years and you will start to feel resentful, more than you do now. And to appease him you might even give in and start dressing boring and frumpy (scary thought , hey?)And it will break your spirit.No matter how much you love him, he IS a control freak. And his jealousy is an indication that his behavior could quickly become unacceptably abusive. That is not OK.And how boring are the 'dates??' he subjects you to? And he does not come to you, you need to go to him? Excuse me? But his behavior suggests arrogance.He would not behave in this way unless he was insecure and worried about losing you.There is a whole world out there. And guys who will treat you like a princess. Pick you up, compliment you. Want to show the world what a great gal you are. Admire you. Bask in the Glow when one of his friends says, 'wow, who's that?'And why shouldn't you wear sexy, flirty, attractive clothing?It concerns me that you have been so loving and loyal to this guy. And yet after two years he is questioning your fidelity?Is this how you wish to go on for the next 50 years?
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