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*ona Hunter
writes:Hey there! So heres the thing, my boyfriend wants me to be mistress, I've never done that. We're both new to this idea but he is ready for anything. Please help me by suggesting what I should do as a mistress? I would appreciate it!Btw, he said he wants his dick to get beaten. what does that mean?
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reader, Lady_Lynette +, writes (14 September 2016):
 I am a Mistress; The duties of a Mistress whether in the traditional sense as in lover to a married man or dominatrix in the bedroom ; your role is to fulfill his sexual fantasies. Indulge his eroticism and have him completely satisfy your eroticism and your fantasies. The truth is if you can't or won't be his mistress he will find someone who will.
A Mistress is in complete control of her household , as in Mistress of the house. She controls everything from the other household members to the miniscule details of everyday life. Mistresses, set rules and administer punishment when the rules are broken. Show your true strength and be the woman your man wants and needs.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 I am going to assume by 'mistress', he wants you to be the dominatrix in the bedroom. He is just asking you to be rough with him.
I hope that helps.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 Well the general definition of a mistress is a woman who is having an affair with a married man or a man in a relationship. So unless your boyfriend is suggesting you go and cheat on him with a married man then I am not sure what he is asking you to do! I think you just need to talk to him about what he wants and what you want - there is no point in guessing what you should be doing when his ideas might be totally different to our ideas on this website. So maybe when you are in bed one night, just talk about it and ask him what he wants you to do, then you can tell him what you want him to do to you etc. I also have no idea what he means when he says he wants his dick to get beaten, I presume he means he wants you to be rough with him, or have sex so much he feels 'beaten'...or something like that. But again - if he is coming up with these odd sayings then just ask him what he means! There is no point in trying to guess what he wants, just talk to him about it and then you will know exactly how to please him. I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, DrDivine +, writes (6 April 2011):
How exciting :) Your BF is interested in BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism). If your BF is asking you to beat his dick (CBT - Cock and Ball Torture), clearly he is very interested in the pain factor. Being a Mistress isn’t all about dishing out the pain; much of domination is about dominating the mind and setting rules. You should discuss things further with your BF to see what kind of things he fantasises about – whether he thinks of you being a mean shouty sadistic type of Mistress or whether he thinks of you being a sensual but sadistic type of Mistress. Find out what other fetishes or desires he has. Of course you have to be interested in exploring this too! Does he consider himself to be submissive and slave like or is he more of a fetishist and only interested in the activities rather than the activities and the psychological aspect? If he is submissive you can have lots of fun creating rules and having him service your needs as well as dishing out punishments because he hasn’t fulfilled his duties or just because you feel like it. BDSM is a fun and healthy lifestyle and is such a vast subject with many different avenues to take. Without knowing your background or the things that you are both interested in, it is difficult to suggest what you should do. I could be typing here all day about the things you can explore! I would suggest getting some books – I’ll recommend 2 at the end. They will tell you all the basics you need to know and give you some great ideas. In the mean time start to have some fun – insist that your BF addresses you as Mistress (or: Miss, Goddess, Princess, Queen, etc) and create some duties for him. Perhaps instruct him that you want a foot massage (lots of submissive men have a thing for feet) – get him to rub and maybe kiss your feet. If he’s not doing it to satisfaction you can tell him off and give his dick a slap with your hand. Have him pleasure you and again, if he isn’t doing it properly you can punish him by spanking him. It is very important that you feel confident in your role as Mistress – if you feel embarrassed it won’t really work. However, it sounds like this is a first for both of you so it should be something that you can develop on together. Has your BF ever watched any videos of this nature? I suspect that he has so ask him to share some with you so that you have a better idea of the things that he is in to. Have fun!! :)
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reader, NandSo  +, writes (6 April 2011):
He obviously is looking for you to be his S and M Mistress. Sounds great, I also like having a dominant woman in the bed. I had a prostitute in Dubai once, and was fingering her in a bar asking her if she could be mean and nasty. We stopped off at her place first before my hotel where she picked up thigh high stilletto pumps. When we were at mine she grabbed my cock hard and put the boots on it , and it was great, sounds like this is the sort of stuff your BF wants, it can be really good fun. Won't be long before he is asking you to peg him. Strap on style. Love it!
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