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writes:My girlfriend while being blunt tells me that before meeting me that she previously had a threesome. Should she tell me with who? She brought it up and now I feel like it is a curiousity that will not go away. Should she tell with who or should I let it go?It was with a man and woman that I may know. Help
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 Let it go - if you find out it will only make things worse and create more issues. You think it is a curiosity that wont go away now? Well imagine if you knew the man and the woman - that would be an image in your head that would never go away and would trouble you forever.
Everyone has a sexual past - just accept that she was a bit adventurous before she met you, but now you are together and happy, and knowing who it was will not make any difference to your relationship. All it can do is make things worse - so push it to the back of your mind and dont ask her about it.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): You will not tolerate the pain! if they were males, but if you don't bring up, then also you will not feel comfortable and after knowing it, you will neither break nor continue, so decide what to do, same thing happened with me and I am going through the severe pain.
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reader, soon567 +, writes (6 April 2011):
I would let this go because nothing can change this now. I couldn't be ashamed of anyone that I love. Those things happen before you and while your dating you should see if this relationship is compatible. If you think that you can't handle this, it now that you need to decide to leave or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): Let it go, nothing good will come of this. If it's someone you know it's going to get worse, if it's not, who cares.Don't expect (or ask) her to repeat the event with you. If she's game (and thinks you're mature enough to handle it) you MIGHT get an opportunity. The best way NOT TO GET ONE is to keep bugging her about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): No man! Believe me you dont want details! It'll mess up your head! Instead, ask her what she learned from the experience and if it is something she'd consider doing again vs settling down with one good man like yourself. If she explored that aspect of her sexuality and wants to continue that (as being she brought it up chances are she might), then my friend both persons sexual ethics and morals dont line up and depending on the relationship, that can be a deal breaker. Good luck.
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