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writes:hi,i recently got back in touch with my third cousin.we're both 19 and related through blood.every year when i was born i would spend a week up north with my cousin and we grew up together really close.we used to kiss under his duvet when we were little and we never argued and got on soo well:) when i was 9 we never saw each other again cause we moved house and mum got ill and my mum and dad split up so we never had the time to go see him. i have been trying to find him for 2 years now and finally found him recently as he has moved down south now.we both have strong feelings for each other and want to take our relationship further and become a couple.i just wanted to know if this is right and what peoples views are on the topic cause i dont know how people would react and if it would cause future problems with children etc.thankyou.
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reader, AndreC.  +, writes (12 July 2009):
 I don't see what the problem is after all it's your 3rd cousin go for it and follow your heart it will lead you in the right way and you can be sure you will never regret it no matter the outcome.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (11 July 2009):
 If he is a third cousin then the blood relation, if it even exists, would be extremely remote.
Third cousins are legal to marry in any case so society doesn't have a problem with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): it's fine if u love him bbe don't worryyyy u'll b fine gd luc anyway x
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (11 July 2009):
Personally, I think anybody with blood relation that you are aware of is a no-no. I wouldn't even think romantically about someone I was related to. In some states here I think it's legal to marry your second cousin; regardless I wouldn't ever consider it. But really it's between you and him and your family may frown upon it. I guess there's enough distance in the bloodline to where there shouldn't be any serious complications as far as having children.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): You don't state the actual stages of your relation? Like do you have the same grandad or anything like that? Because you will have to think of how the family will take it so you can prepare for their reactions...
other than that GO FOR IT!!!! If you like each other see what happens! Take it slowly, get to know each other again and see if you both want the same things...
As for having children, I don't think you need worry about that just yet!!!! But do make sure you practice safe sex and don't rush into anything you don't feel comfortable with :)
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reader, Harry Castle +, writes (11 July 2009):
 3rd. cousin?
No problem - follow your heart.
Harry.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (11 July 2009):
 in some places around the world its perfectly legal to marry your cousin so i wouldnt worry about it.
yes the chances of faulty genetics passing thru onto kids is greater, but there's a risk in everything.
weigh up how much he means to u and dont worry too much what other people think, ultimately its your happiness what matters.
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): Generally, past second cousins is considered distantly enough related to not be taboo. In regards to genetics, google third cousin couples. The first link is a study on just that subject.
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