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writes: What should I do, if my husband doesn't know, why he has no sexual desire for me?Also, why he is always losing his erection ,when we have finally sex.He says sex is wiped out from his mind...Where I'm confused, that he went to the doctor,and he said ,he is healthy, his problem is not in his body. He tried many things. His hormones are ok too.So the dilemma is, is it possible, that nobody knows what is his problem?What am I suppose to do,if his sexual dysfunction remains mystery? How can I go on , how can I accept this? What should I ask from him? Its been a long time now, that we are having this problem. Thanks for helping.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2011): Is he on any kind of medication? I once had a high sex drive but now that I'm on meds I have almost no desire for sex. As your husband said, it doesn't even enter my mind. I know for a fact that it's my meds because I accidently ran out of pills for three days and I wanted to screw every woman in sight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): Does he have no desire for YOU or no desire for sex? There is a big difference. My man, also is dealing with ID and has had to try difference medications as well as doses and we still don't have it figured out. It's frustrating as hell to be really getting into it, and bam, just like that, erection gone. Then we have to start again, a while later and he becomes erect again and often has an orgasm, but not always. I cannot remember the last time we started and finished in "one session" if you will.... sometimes this really is to mine and his advantage when we have that kind of time, but not always...sometimes I would just love that I'm into it, lets have a quicky, and it just can't happen that way.This is important, and I wouldn't just let it go....seek another opinion, do some reading and get educated..you will be surprised at what kind of helpful info is out there. Good luck.
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reader, TEM  +, writes (19 April 2011):
 You've already gone to the doctor, so that's a good start. You've ruled out a physical reason for the problem. I think you might now want to look for a psychological reason.One of the first things to go in people with depression is libido. They lose their desire for sex. The fact that he says, "It's wiped from his mind," makes me think he is depressed. People with depression lose their desire for things they once found pleasurable - such as sex. Other symptoms include loss of appetite and sleep problems.Does he seem depressed to you? Low energy? Lack of enthusiasm for things he used to enjoy? You can look up the other symptoms on many online sites including depression.com. There is often a checklist. You have to say yes to so many of them (maybe three) before it is deemed that there is a possibility of depression. If you suspect this, get him to a psychiatrist or psychologist that specializes in mood disorders. You may have to make the appointment. Sometimes people who are depressed can't get motivated enough to do it for themselves. I hope this helps.Best of luck,TEM
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reader, ToHereKnowsWhen  +, writes (19 April 2011):
 I have seen so many adverts on TV about this lately that I don't think this problem is uncommon for men. I don't understand what he can possibly mean when after sex he says `sex is wiped out from his mind'.The one thing I know about this is that if either of you expend too much time or effort worrying about it, it won't do you any good. Relax. He is most likely terribly embarrassed about the situation. He has been to the Doctor and his problem is not in his body, then I guess it must be in his mind.Is there something that he wants that you two are not talking about? Is he masturbating? Does he have a fantasy that you could share?All the best.
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