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writes:Hi helpful aunts, I am 24 and have been married for 18 months. Since we got married, the most days we have stayed without sex is 4 days and that's when he travels or I do. It happens almost daily.I was a virgin when I got married and it was painful every time so I never enjoyed the sex but I love the foreplay a lot. My problem is after all this time, I still get no pleasure in penetration that I wonder how others say they scream in pleasure when their man is in. I dont feel pain though yet, no pleasure but I cum 95% of the time. Is it because my husband cums quickly in less than a minute he is in that I dont get enough time to feel it or is there anything wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx aunts. I feel much better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): I don't think you are unusual in wanting a little more stimulation. I think your husband climaxing after only a minute of penetrative sex needs to be looked at though. That is quite unusual!Maybe you should both try non-penetrative sex for a while - just get to know each other's bodies through touch, massage, kissing, licking, etc. If you both have busy lives, set aside one night every week for 'date night' - get dressed up, have a lovely candlelit dinner, low lighting - you know, really set the mood. You said you were a virgin when you married, so this is all you have ever known - the painful part of sex, and I bet you clam up now every time you even think of it. By taking the pressure off and just 'playing' with each other, you will soon find that you want to do more with each other.Re : your Husband climaxing after one minute of being inside you, perhaps if, a couple of hours before 'date night' he climaxed on his own, the need for it to be over so quickly with you won't be so pressing for him? Good luck and enjoy your married life together!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): Not all woman are alike...I actually have the opposite situation. I can't cum through foreplay or oral, but I've never thought of it as a problem even though some men have thought it a bit strange...I don't think you have a problem either. As for the others "screaming in pleasure", don't let other people's performances or versions of pleasure stop you from experiencing yours. You sound normal and your husband sounds like he cares about your sexual gratification. Don't knock a good thing.If you want to try knew things out, just ask him. He might have gotten into a routine, because he knows it works for you.Good luck.
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