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writes:There's a guy I went on a few dates with and I like him very much. I feel like we are a good match and he does indeed seem into me, only thing is our distance is definitely a challenge. We are friends on Facebook and for some reason, ALL of his activity shows up on my timeline. Anytime he is friends with someone, anytime someone writes on his wall, I see it. And there is one particular woman who flirts with him a lot and the stuff she says suggests they are a couple, or at least romantically involved/interested. I never let it bother me at first because he IS still technically single (supposedly) and it would always be her that initiates. But today she told him she loved him and he had no problem saying it right back and it really got to me. I know getting upset over Facebook isn't a very good thing to do, but I cannot help what I saw. So what should I do? 1) Just ask him if he has a girlfriend?2) Stop talking to him period?3) Just be nice and treat him like a friend from now on?4) Something else?What should I do?
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (8 October 2012):
 When is the last time you went out with him? How often do you talk to him? And what do you talk about? How far do you live from each other?
Without knowing any of these answers and going by only what you posted I would say to leave him as a friend/stop talking to him and have it be the end of that. You are long distance and haven't been seeing each other seriously or a long time and he doesn't seem completely interested in you. Otherwise he wouldn't say he loved another girl. Asking if he has a gf seems pointless to me. If he said no does that make this exchange of words with this female okay? They obviously have something going on, he doesn't seem completely invested in starting a new relationship. You can ask him about it if you want to, who she is, what he is looking for with you, etc. But to be honest I'd lose all interest in a guy I was seeing if he was saying I love you and flirting with another chick, even if it's early on. Shows he isn't too committed in starting something with you.
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reader, lmao1989  +, writes (8 October 2012):
 Well if you're so concerned about this woman why not confront him. Just ask him whether or not he is involved with someone just so you know for your own minds sake and can move on if needs be.
You can stop from viewing his feeds through your wall all the time i'm not sure how as i deleted it a while ago.
I wouldn't stop talking to him try and find out what is going on he may just be humouring her as you said they flirt whose to say what he's said now is just a flirty thing also?
He may want to make her feel good about herself or just likes playing around with her try talking to him and find out whether or not he is with her.
For your minds ease.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 October 2012):
 the reason all his activity shows up on facebook is because you marked him as a close friend and you requested his updates... change that and you won't see them
if you don't know who she is and you are dating him... ASK HIM... "hey who is that girl on your facebook page that loves you??"
how far apart are you distance wise...
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (8 October 2012):
 I would tell him I saw the facebook exchanges and feel like I can't open up to him anymore. Plus the distance makes it difficult for you to sustain anything real, and that you are considering ending it.
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