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writes: This is a long distance situation.We have known each other for almost a year and we went on a date about a month ago. In the beginning when we met, I was vocal about wanting to talk to him on the phone and he said he'd call but it never happened. I didn't make a big deal out of it. We finally went on a date recently and he called me briefly before picking me up and briefly after our date. Our date went REALLY well and he has been in touch consistently ever since but it is ALWAYS only through text message. And while he does say sweet things, it is always very brief. I feel like after a month, there should be more than that now. He tells me he misses me and that he thinks of me often and such. Asks me how I'm doing, texts me good morning and such. But it never seems to get farther than that . His text messages never get past "how/what are you doing? followed by an "I miss you". I have initiated a bit more afterward, but he doesn't respond. IDK if it's because of awkwardness or what but I still feel like he is not trying to get to know me more, he just flirts. On one hand I feel like he is into me and does like me because he reaches out to me most of the time and I don't feel like he would be leading me on considering we live so far away but on the other hand, how come he doesn't want to talk more? Would a guy continue to lead a woman on even if she lives far away?How should I go about telling him how I feel without being pushy about it? AND being that I have to actually ASK him to call me, should I just not take him serious? Especially because of the distance?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 October 2012):
 some men hate talking on the phone.... it's just that simple
but you can tell him.. I need phone calls. I did that when I was dating my LDR husband... I NEEDED daily phone calls. he was not a texter so it wasn't like I was getting texts.. he would email but was not a big phone person...
he changed for me..... because I asked.
if this guy texts you daily... he's thinking of you... he just may hate the phone.
how far apart are you?
you can tell him you love the texts but could he manage to call you as well... maybe he has limited voice and unlimited text...
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (8 October 2012):
 He doesn't want to talk on the phone because he has no intention to carry this further. Texting is not enough to satisfy anybody. Your expectations are higher than his. Telling a guy how you feel only works when the guy cares about how you feel. What you are going to tell him in a calm or angry voice, basically the message is the same: that this is not working for you anymore. I don't think he is leading you on. He likes the idea that someone, faraway is thinking about him. He never promised you anything. When you text him back you are expressing that you accept the vagueness of this arrangement and that he assumes you have other things or persons that occupy your time. If you just disappear I don't think it would hurt him a bit.
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