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writes:hi guys , i have been married for 2 years and trying to concieve for 1 year and half but no luck .we have tried different positions . but i want to know whats the best position for getting pregnant ?and can i still get pregnant if i'm on top or if we do the dogie style?plzzz help thanks
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (2 July 2009):
 I bet you get knocked up on vacation...anyone want a piece of the action? Not that action..or piece..oh hell you know what I mean....
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthaaank you guys for all ur help u have gave me hope again .another month passed and i had my period . yesterday .i was sooo boomed im trying to relax and have fun. i gained so much weight with all the meditations and hormones i've been taking and i couldn't lose it again . i tried to make every kind of diet but when i set at home thinking i just start eating again . its crazy and i think its effecting my chance to get pregnant . i weigh 165 pounds and i used to weigh 136 pounds before trying to get pregnant . im 6'5 inches high . i think im a little over weight .i dont have time to go to gym im studying engineering and dont have time to go to gym with all my studying and exams.i think my husband and i are just gonna relax and go on vacation to help us stop stressing .thaanks again guys for the hope u gave me :)
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reader, natasia +, writes (28 June 2009):
 Firstly, you have my total sympathy because i know what it is like to be 'trying' ... but don't give up. It may seem like a massive thing, getting pregnant - but really it can happen v easily, in the blink of an eye, and as there is nothing wrong with either of you, it will happen.
Whether you ovulate late, early or on day 14 has nothing to do with anything. The important thing is making sure there are some sperm already waiting to meet the egg, and that then it gets another one or two showerings while it's still there! That should be enough to make it happen, but sometimes it just doesn't - that's life. And that's why you only have a short while to wait until your next period, and next ovulation, and next chance.
I think you absolutely shouldn't give up yet. Lots of people overcome all sort of problems to get pregnant naturally, and you and your husband actually don't have any problems ... there are sperm, and there is an egg. Sometimes there is something about the particular pH or other of your vagina - basically, you could have a slight mismatch with your husband on that front, and that might kill off more of his sperm than would normally fall by the wayside (because some always do - that's why there are millions of them). You can have that checked by a doctor.
I think you should:
- stop drinking any alcohol or smoking
- drink lots of water, eat lots of fruit
- exercise every day (swimming is good)
- be happy and excited about the future, and hopeful
- love yr husband
- have a lot of sex
Be healthy, happy and in love and give it another 6 months ... I don't think you will need that long. And do that ovulation test every day, so you can see how your fertility rises and falls ... that if nothing else should make you happy, as it is proof that you can and will have a baby.
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (28 June 2009):
 Please don't give up. It was at the moment when I had started to give up that I got pregnant. I know it's hard and depressing. A kind of sadness that can't be explained. I felt like less than a woman to see everyone around me getting pregnant at the drop of a hat and here I was 5 years into my marriage, and 3 years actively trying for a child with no luck. but in the end with a lot of prayer it all worked out perfectly.My opinion is that now that you know what day you are ovulating on you should keep trying the old fasioned way. use an ovulation predictor kit (that kind of helped me) to know for sure when you are ovulating. if you know you are going to ovulate on day 14 have sex on day 13, 14 and 15. When I got pregnant, the ovulation kit showed me ovulating but just by chance we had, had intercourse the day before, I think that's when it happened, because the sperm was sitting there waiting for the egg when it came traveling down my tube. then when the kit showed me ovulating I practically threw my husband down and jumped on him. two weeks later I was confirmed pregnant.As for invitro, its always an option but for me it was the absolute last option. but that would be your call and I wish you the best in anything that you decide.SENDING YOU BABY SPRINKLES FROM BABYMAMA!!please mail me if you want to talk further...
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reader, laura585 +, writes (28 June 2009):
I think yall should keep trying. Give it sometime and quit stressing about it so much if in a year or so there is still no luck then maybe start thinking about it. Thats what i would do anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks to all of u guys for ur help !!
we've been to doctors and we made all the tests my husband is fine , but me i ovulate late like 17 or 18 day of my period .
so they gave me some pills and injections that force me to ovulate . and it went well now i ovulate on the 14th day of my period.
but still no luck . doctors told me that here is no any problem . everything is fine there is no reason for not getting pregnant .
im starting to give up now its been 2 years and im so sad .
now im considering atrificial insemination what do u guys think ?
should i try more or just go for artificial insemination ?
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (18 June 2009):
We tried for 3 years. I had to take medication and got pregnant with our first one. Got pregnant again (without even trying) with the second one. Now we have two little ones running around.
if you go to fertility treatment they will want your husband to have a test to see what his sperm count is. they'll just have him ejaculate in a cup. It's better to rule out the man first, because it's a lot tougher dealing with the female reproductive system. If he comes out ok they will then start to treat you.
to make a long story short, I just took a pill that force me to ovulate and it worked.
It will work out. trust me I was so depressed and ready to give up until I saw those two lines on that pregnancy test!! I'll never forget. It was all worth it.
as far as positions, any one will do. but on that I agree with the other posters. missionary with the pillow under is probably the best because it gets him closer to the target, and helps the sperm swim upstream.
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reader, natasia +, writes (18 June 2009):
ps and just read some of the other answers - i am sure you didn't mean anal by dogie!!!!!
doggie is a perfectly efficient way of getting pregnant. the best is whatever gets him the deepest (and therefore his sperm) ... and then lying still and happy in his arms all night.
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reader, natasia +, writes (17 June 2009):
Hi there
I am convinced the most important thing is that you're relaxed, happy and healthy. The position really doesnt matter at your age, if everything else is good. This is my advice:
for 3 months -
don't drink any alcohol
drink lots of water
eat lots of fruit
do lots of exercise
smile a lot
have lots of sex (in all and any position!)
oh - and going on holiday always helps!
that will work, i'm sure : )
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reader, laura585 +, writes (17 June 2009):
Well I know there are a lot of myths about positions determining the sex of the baby and what not but I'm pretty sure the chance of getting pregnant is possible with any position as long as the sperm meets the egg! Afterwards try laying on your back with your legs up and see if gravity helps any. Also I'd highly recommend seeing a doctor, there are fertility meds and such that are available. Don't give up! My parents tried for NINE YEARS, drs told them they couldnt have kids, then my brother came along and 3 years later I was born. So keep trying but also enjoy the time you and your husband have together with no children, you wont have that hardly at all after a little one is in the picture.
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reader, paula marie  +, writes (17 June 2009):
Hi i do know what you are feeling. it
took me over two years to get pregnant with each of my children. It is indeed very upsetting every month when you see a period i dont know how much money i spent on tests .dont give up hope but dont feel anxious. Stress can be a big factor in slowing things down It will happen when the time is right you will make a great mom someday keep your chin up
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 June 2009):
After sex don't get up right away, elevate your legs and stay there for a few minutes. Also have BOTH of you been checked out by a physician? Sometimes a guy can have a vein that heats his scrotum just a tad too much and it kills the sperm. Once that vein is removed (minor surgery) Bingo. Once you get the AOK from your doctor it's probably just a matter of time. I always suggest that couples trying to conceive plan an expensive vacation with a nonrefundable deposit about 9 months down the road. That works like a charm also. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): Um yeah, you can get pregnant from any sex position. Different positions make ZERO difference. Make sure you're having sex around your peak fertility times too. Since you've been trying for awhile, you might want to think about fertility testing. It's usually recommended that the guy get tested first because it's less invasive.
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reader, betty_black +, writes (17 June 2009):
 You can get pregnant in any position but you being on top makes it more difficult because the sperm has to swim up instead of across if that makes sense. They say the boring missionary is the easiest way to do it. And by doggie do you mean anal? Cos thats impossible. If you just mean the position then yeah that can happen.
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