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writes:I have a 8months old baby. after i gave birth my husband and i had sex just one time till now and i found he wathches the porno DVD every other day and also masterbateI don't know what to do?i tried everythin . nothing worked please help meGaleen
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): In response to the anonymous male's comment who said there's notyhing wrong with what he's doing...There is too something wrong with what he's doing! He won't have sex with his wife, but he'll jack off to porn all the time? How would you feel if your wife wouldn't have sex with you, it had been 8 months or longer but she was watching other men and using a dildo??? Some men are so dense they can't put themselves in other people's shoes for one second.
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reader, _Edward_  +, writes (19 July 2007):
 Well…first of all nice job on the new baby… =D. Now maybe your husband wants to have sex more often…try having sex with him once a week…maybe he will stop, or tall him that he should drop the porn and masturbating for you and your little baby…see what happens.
Well I hope everything will work out just fine… =D
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reader, sxcbabiegal +, writes (19 July 2007):
 masturbation isn't really anything you should worry about if men haven't had sex in a long time it's always quite common for them to watch porn and masturbate while watching it and seeing that you both haven't had sex in a while this is probably the reason. just relax at least it's only a dvd. it could of been another women but since he's using porn i doubt it very much
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): He's got a thing called madonna/whore syndromw love...trus me its quite common...some men smply cant see women who are mothes as sexy and seperate women into either whore (who sexualy appeal to them or mothers who dont...nsist he sees a therapist...Regardless of the other responses porn is not acceptable EVER and especially not so soon after a birth when most women feel crappy enough about their bodies without their husband making it worse by lusting after women without stretch marks, sags etc or all those other normal things that happen to most moms.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (19 July 2007):
 First I wanna say congratulations! on the new baby. Its a wonderful time when your kids are first born, but it can also be a time of worry and stress and can make you really tired as raising children is a lot of hard work isn't it.
Its also not unusual for women to find sex a bit of a chore at this time. Your running round trying to do all you have to for your child and there doesn't seem to be time for making love to your husband?...right? and sometimes, you just plain don't feel like it. Your body has been through a lot and maybe you just need a little time for everything to get back to normal and for your emotions to settle down a little.
I don't think you should worry about your husband relieving himself to porn. In fact I think its his way of giving you a little space. Men are very sexual beings. Most of them have a need to be relieved very often, its just the way they are made and they cannot really help it as its just a natural part of them. Using porn is just a way to get stimulation and relief, it just serves a purpose and usually doesnt mean much else (unless its something bad like involving children or animals)Most of it is harmless and I am sure your husband loves you very much and is respecting the fact that you may not be up for love making at the moment.
You could try talking to him, unless you think it will embarrass him, or you could just leave him be and when you feel ready, try to re initiate your love making.
Some women are disgusted by porn, some don't mind their partner indulging in it and just ignore it and some women get right in there and enjoy porn with their partner and allow it to contribute to their relationship. But if you are a woman who thinks masterbating is dirty or wrong, then you just have to live with the fact that...you may not like it, but it happens anyway.
Good luck and I hope you figure it out.
Aunty Em x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): Theres nothing wrong with what hes doing. Its normal. Be thankful hes using the porn and not another woman.
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