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writes: Hey guys,My gf broke up with me about 2 months ago, i'm 22 and she's 21.When we dated, we did everything together and have been through so much together. All those times that i spent with her was the happiest moments in my life so far.When she broke up with me she said i don't give her enough space, and that i don't respect her. We were living together after 3 months into the relationship, i mean what space can i give her when she islivingwith me? Anyways, ever since she left me, i've been really depressed, i couldn't sleep or eat properly, all i do is think ofher and cry at night. I loved her, i still do and really believed that this relationship would last.After many sleepless nights and support from friends i slowly recovered from my depression. Everyday i would try and occupy myself with things to do so i can get my mind off her. I would go to the gym, have a stroll around the city etc... Ever since we broke up, she text's me about once a week asking me for money because she has no finanical income. Because i love her, i gave in and help her with the money issue. however, this keep going on and on... I've been giving her money almost every two weeks foolishly thinking i would get a chance at getting back with her.Although i am slowly recovering from my broken heart pain, i really can't deny the fact that i still loveher and that i always will love her. All the thingswe've done, all the memories we've shared are just stuck deep inside my heart. I am really sick and tired of doing all this, holding on hoping that one day she would come back to me, helping her giving her money, thinking of her every night. I've tried to forget about her and move on, but everywhere i go, everywhere i look at reminds me of her, i just can't get over her, i really believed she was the one for me...I'm just can't take all this anymore... Should i try and move on? should i keep holding on hopingoneday she would come back to me? i don't know anymore...
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reader, mitta  +, writes (15 November 2006):
I dont think she'll come back to you. I'm sorry. If she really loved you or wanted you back she would be back by now. She is clearly just using you for money. I know that right now you just feel like you will never get over her but you will in time. Its the worst pain in the world but when you get through it your stronger than you ever were before, and much wiser too. Even if she does come back to you it will probably never be the same as it was. You'll be even more insecure because you'll be worried she'll leave you and the problems that lead you to break up in the first place will be worse ten fold. You're young you've still got lots of time to have fun and meet the right girl. Cherish the good memories but please try to move on. You deserve a good relationship with someone who worships you, if you keep trying with her i fear that she ultimately wont give you what you want or deserve.
Good luck x
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reader, jack23 +, writes (15 November 2006):
 This must be a hard time for you, I have been in the same position myself, so can relate to how you must be feeling.
Firstly I think it is obvious that she is using you for your money. You need to talk to her and tell her that you have both moved on now and she is no longer your responsibility. She needs to look after herself, and you need to look after yourself.
I would suggest moving on, you are over the worst of it and she has not yet returned except for money, is this how you really want to be treated???
Get over her and move on,right now it will seem the worst option to make, but I would say is the best. I fell inlove with my first serious girlfriend, she broke my heart and I didnt want to move on. Now I am inlove stronger than before.
You are doing the right thing trying to keep yourself busy and spending time with your friends. But the best thing to do is to have no contact, otherwise everytime you get a little bit closer to getting over her, she will contact you again and make it harder.
At the end of the day it is your decision what to do, I think you know what you would say to a mate in you situation. You seem an intelligent guy, and believe you will make the right choice. Remember there are plenty more fish in the sea!
Good luck :)
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