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writes:So, me and my girlfriend have been dating for 4+ months and I came to realize that she doesn't know my number by heart. No big deal is what I initially thought but then I found out that she still know's her ex's number by heart (they dated for 2 years but have been broken up for almost 2 years and have remained friends after the breakup). Now it has been 10+ months and I still believe she doesn't know my number, should I be concerned?
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (5 January 2011):
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i don't know my own mobile number at all, i wouldn't even recognise it if someone wrote it on a piece of paper and passed it to me. i remember the mobile of a guy i dated quite briefly 7 years ago! he means absolutely nothing to me any more but its just more of an easy sequence to remember. your girl was with the other guy for two years and has only been with you for 10 months so maybe he has a more distinctive/easy to remember number or maybe its coz she has known him longer and hence, rang him more times than she has with you yet. either way, please try not to worry about this. the digits that make up a mans telephone number are definitely not something that we girls pay a lot of attention to
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reader, PrincessTina +, writes (4 January 2011):
I would blame speed dial.
He probably dated the other girl before speed dial was invented and a person was forced to memorize a number.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (4 January 2011):
 I don't even know my best friend's number by heart, but that obviously doesn't mean I don't care about her. Thanks to my cell phone there's no longer a need to memorize numbers. Try not to take it personally if she doesn't know yours, it would be a lot worse if she didn't know your name!
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reader, cat lady +, writes (4 January 2011):
 There are some numbers I still can't remember no matter how regularly I have to use them. Mystiquek is right: those cell phones that most of us are accustomed to using by now obligingly store our numbers for us and get our memory off the hook. Like the calculators that are so often brought to class by students, they have a dark side because they allow our mental muscles to get a bit flabby. Unless that gal calls you by another name when you're cuddling and then looks nervous, you have nothing to worry about. Don't look for trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): I agree with the others, not a big deal. I don't have my mom's number memorized and I talk to her every day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): Yeah, nothing to worry about at all! I just got a new phone today and realised my boyfriend's number didn't transfer over for some reason... now I can't call him till I get home and I'm really wishing I'd remembered it because now I feel so lonely. I bet your girlfriend would be the same. We're all so used to looking for the name and pressing ring, there's no need to remember numbers anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): There isn't anything to be concerned about. When someone know's a number off by heart they'll never forget it. I still remember my friend's old number from when she was like 10, and she's had like a million number's since.
I've been with my boyfriend for over two years and I still don't know his number off by heart. It isn't a big deal, honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): Perhaps when she was dating her ex, she was at some point without a cell phone?
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reader, Miss.Knowitall  +, writes (4 January 2011):
 Um no, there are some phone numbers I can remember like one I had 4 years ago as a house phone number and now the house I have been in for 4 years I can't remeber half the time but I still know the other one by heart.
If it helps i've been dating my bf for 11 months and only know the first 3 numbers because it is the same as mine. :P
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (4 January 2011):
 No, I believe you're being a little too sensitive about this. I still remember an ex's number from 6 years ago, because I had to dial it all the time! I agree with everyone else, now with cell phones, you really don't have to memorize numbers anymore, its programmed. But God help you if you lose your cell phone! Relax..its nothing to be concerned about.
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reader, xxkansasxx +, writes (4 January 2011):
I wouldn't be concerned at all. I've be dating my current spouse for almost a year, and I have yet to memorize it. It just depends on what kind of technology you have at your disposal.
Perhaps when she was dating her ex she didn't have a cell phone so she was forced to remember it to call them from wherever she was at. Now that she is with you, and most likely has a cellular device, she can easily type in your contact without even seeing or having to memorize one number.
If it really bothers you that much, bring it up jokingly, or in an indirect way. I wouldn't yell or make a big deal out of it, because it would most likely backfire.
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX +, writes (4 January 2011):
 I wouldn't be worried.:) I can't remember anyones numbers, not even my own mobile, and i have had some of my friends for years (best friend now for 15yrs and i still don't know her 6 digit home number by heart):P
Some people are not good at remembering little details like that, but as long as you 2 are in a good relationship then there is nothing to worry about ^_^
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): well i dont know sometimes certain phone numberes are hard to remember and some are easy. like his might be 456987 and yours migght be 272785757447? hehe im sure not that long though. i can remember my friends moms number my cousins number and my moms number i dont know my own number i have to check my phone when someone asks for it. and if you say theyre still friends she probably texts him alot and automatically just knows......? does that make sense?
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (4 January 2011):
LOL no! I used to remember phone numbers back in the day when I had to actually dial a number, but these days I don't know anyone's phone numbers. Even previous boyfriends (espcially if they had a different area code with cell phones these days) I had no idea what their number's were. I may have remembered the last 4 so I had an idea who was calling--otherwise, it's not a big deal.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (4 January 2011):
 This isn't anything to be concerned about. I've been dating my gf for almost two years and don't remember her number. I only remember numbers that I used to punch in before cell phones. Don't relate something that small to how well your relationship is doing.
What does matter is that he calls you and you two love each other, not whether he can remember arbitrary numbers. I'm sure you two have a great relationship so don't worry about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): No offence, it is just unbelievably immature to be concerned.
People dont remember numbers anymore, they just save them.
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