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writes:I met this guy at work and initially we connected on a level i've never experienced. We met at work as we both work away from home in our kind of business, I fell in Love with him ... trouble is he had to leave and go back to the uk (we were in germany) He said he couldn't handle a long distance relationship again as with all the worry and jealousy and added pressure which i understood as my previous relationship was a LD one and ended very badly. We said we would see what happened when my contract finished, and stay friends during this period .... Trouble is I'm not handling this very well, he's all i think about.Now we've been seperated 6 moths and its not possible to visit due to both our work commitments but i still cant stop thinking about him at every given moment and this is not good for me. ... Am i suppose to just wait and see what happens? i feel he's moving on and doing the things he needs to do and im here thinking about him .... i feels he's loosing grip of us ... and part of me says i should try and move on. he says that 'Im' not something he can focus on right now because were not together In my ideal world, i'll finish my contract and go home and we'll be together but realistically is that going to happen???so should i wait and see what happens or should i try and forget him?
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reader, kaui57  +, writes (14 October 2008):
You should talk to him and see how he feels about your relationship. If he feels differently towards you and is not feeling that spark anymore then I would definitely end things and move on. Long distance relationships are so difficult but if both people are willing to put in the time and effort then it can definitely work. Good luck!
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reader, SarahOwen +, writes (14 October 2008):
I think you should certainly try other relationships whilst he's not there. He seems to have made it obliquely clear that he will be doing so. I think if he really was into you, he wouldn't be telling you things like 'You're not something he can focus on'.
You can do better...
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