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anonymous
writes:i am engaged, but love someone else, but he wont talk to me though because i am engaged. i want to know how this other man feels before i decide what to do, the question is how do i find out without asking him, or how do i win this other man over and not hurt the man i am engaged to?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): Ouch! I feel sorry for the guy you are with..if you don't love him, don't want to be with him, then do the classy thing and end the relationship. Its not fair to him. Think how you would feel if you were him...Kudos to the guy you are interested in for not wanting to be involved since you are engaged. Sounds like you need to figure out what you want before you hurt someone. You can't have it all, so chose wisely.
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reader, SarahOwen  +, writes (14 October 2008):
You can't have your cake and eat it, I'm afraid (although I never did understand that - surely that's the point of cake?!)
You shouldn't stary engaged to someone when you love someone else. It's not fair on any of you. You need to break off your engagement. Don't get married to someone you're not sure about. It's a lot easier to separate before marriage.
As for hurting the guy you are with, that's pretty much a given. But you need to make your mind up - who do you want to be with? And then behave with dignity - for all your sakes.
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