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writes:my boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years, we're expecting our first child! I have started to have some serious trust issues with him, it's driving me mad and it's all started with an ex of his i caught him texting her loads of time,this was near the start of our relationship. then about 6months ago i caught him texting her again i went really mad at him and he didnt do it again until recently i found a sent text from him to her asking her for naked pics i felt sick with anger! And this time he went out of his way to get her numb again, he went looking for an old phonebill to get it from, also ive noticed on web history that hes has went out of his way to try find other exs of his! it would be different if he wasnt going out of his way to get in touch with them!! i really dont want us to fall out over this but why is he doing this!!!! he says it just for fun, how can it be fun when its making me mental!!
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reader, Aeval  +, writes (24 April 2008):
 No good can come from this. Re evaluate your realationship and ask yourself is this the type of man you want looking after you? If he is asking for naked pics then chances are its not far off the next step. its a hard pill to swallow but you will be better off without him in the future!
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reader, Ares +, writes (24 April 2008):
 Hear, hear duskyrowe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): how soon is it going to be before this 'fun' texting actually leads to him meeting up with one of these women and making it physical? You seriously need to re evaluate your relationship with this man and decide if he is really capable of being a responsible father
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (23 April 2008):
 Kick his sorry ass to the kerb!!!!
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reader, previasc96  +, writes (23 April 2008):
You should have seen the red flag the first time girl! If you was uncomfortable with him still keeping contact with his ex, that's what you should say in the first place. He is either obcessed with her or still in love. If he loves you he will let her go! Period!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): You need to have along talk with him. You both need to sit down and get to the root of any problems you each have. You both must work and understand each other and create a plan to deal with it in the immediate and future.
Without know more, I'll stick to this short response and not make assumptions based on lack of information.
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reader, katie-4632x. +, writes (23 April 2008):
If you cant trust him enough to not get in touch with his ex's you shouldnt be able to trust him enough for him to become the father of your child.He isnt doing this for fun he is probably doing this because you are at a serious time in your relationship and hes not ready to commit to the seriousness that he needs to be to become a father. He may be screaming out for attention to try and show that he's not ready or that he wants to wait. He obviously cant be trusted around his ex's so i would take a time out so he can sort out what he wants from your relationship and if he will get over his ex's.
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reader, natasia +, writes (23 April 2008):
 Fun? No. Not for you, as you say. Does he reassure you that he loves you, etc.? I hope so.
Basically, I think he's one of those men who needs to flirt with too many women, and he likes his exes when they're ex ... suddenly they become interesting again ... I fear you won't be able to stop him, so you either have to live with it, and believe that it means nothing, or give him an ultimatum. But even if he says he'll stop, I'm afraid I don't think he will. He'll just be more secretive about it. : (
If it is any comfort, although it's annoying, i don't think it sounds like he means much by it. It probably is just 'fun' in his eyes - but upsetting for you. Can you live with it?
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reader, Andrew83 +, writes (23 April 2008):
 First of all you both need to sit down and really talk about this matter, if it goes on any longer it could effect you, your unborn baby and your relationship all together.This isnt very good to find out and for it to keep on goin is worse at the least.Soon as you two sit down and talk the better. Ask why he's txtin his ex for naked pic's.. Say to him that this is not a game, its not fun to play around when your both together in this relationship.To me, askin around for naked pic's is in away cheatin. (for me it is) when with someone as in a relationship that is.He may think its "fun" but really it isnt, its like he's pushin you away or startin to by what i read.He should be supportin you not txtin his ex gf's, be learnin about how to look after a baby and the rest.Ok, so you still want him. Talkin to each other is the only way your both goin to move forward here.Let him know it's hurtin you so much what he's doin to you, you love him alot and really dont want to fall out with him, you want him to be part of your's and the babies life.Sorry to hear about your problem sweetheart. I hope in some way this helps and if any other aunts post here too.The best of luck to you both
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reader, superbunny +, writes (23 April 2008):
 Tell him to sort it out! He shouldn't be messing you around like this when you're carrying his baby! Tell him to grow up. Ask him would he find it funny if an ex sent naked photos of themselves to you... I can guarantee he wouldn't. I'd sort this out asap before the baby arrives so you can patch stuff up and the child won't enter the world into a hostile environment. =] x
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