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writes:This relationship tbegan by sms chat nd 2 months later...we became friends with benefits. The arrangement is no expectations. Either of us can opt out anytime. Its a year now nd the uncertainty is becoming harder to bear.... Wen we 2gether im in a fantasy... But it remains a dream nd i have to get up not knowin wen i'll see him againWe both happy with the way things are but not knowing wen he'll drop me is scary. Your thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2011): Thanks for the response....Its just if you lonely theres a gap, for that little comfort....you will accept anything you get.
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reader, goalstopper  +, writes (26 May 2011):
I would talk to him about your feelings. If he doesn't feel the same, then quit cold turkey. but if he does, figure out a balance that works for both of you. It started out being unhealthy so it's hard to make it healthy. It is possible if you want more than FWB with him.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 May 2011):
 You are fooling yourself.
You DO have expectations. You expect it may last, you expect there is a next time, and if you are anxious about the when, and always afraid there may NOT be a next time, then no, you are not happy with FWB. He may be, but you definitely are not.
FWBs are for a minority of free-spirited, thick-skinned women. All the others get hurt.
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