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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend of 4 1/2 years broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. She told me she didn't love me anymore. She started talking to a new guy almost right away, but every once in a while she text me or calls me and says she misses me or is thinking about me, and misses old times, one day I seen her in person as I went to leave she started crying and jumped in my arms saying I miss you. So I talked to her about getting back together and she says no not now if we do later on then were meant to be. I mentioned then why would you be telling me things that make me feel like you want to be with me when you don't? She replied that she doesn't know what she wants. I am her first boy friend and she is my first as well, we have been each others first and only for everything. have been very busy with school so I can make a better life for the both of us and I think she got really bored. I would see her often but we didn't have any real quality time together for a long while. I told her we need to hang out once in a while and she said no because she cant be around me as a friend. I don't know what to do at this point I love her with all my heart and she obviously has feelings for me still but she doesn't want to act upon them. Can someone give me some tips to get her back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwere 20 years old. We have never had any problems in the past my women friends say its a phase, but i don't know. According to friends she just wants the attention i haven't given her in a while. She is the type of girl who likes to be shown off shes not into dancing with guys or going crazy she just wants to be that trophy sitting on the shelf that everyone awes over. I have a lot of friends that see her around town and everyone says she just sits on the couch in VIP and talks to some friends. PS the guy she is talking to is a club promoter. When I mentioned him before she acts as if he is a no body. I know she is having a lot of problems right now such as school and finding out what she wants to be and also family problems. I sometimes pressure her though about making a decision about what to do for a living which I probably shouldn't it's just that I'm progressing and she isn't. She told me she hasn't been happy for a while but just 6-7 months ago she was talking about getting married moving in together and in a few years starting a family together. I don't know she isn't just my girlfriend she's also my best friend. Its not that I cant move on,I attract women very easily it's more of I don't want to. I like the person I am when I'm around her and she makes me want to do better in everything I do. I want her back I just need help because I have never had girl problems before and this is all just really confusing to me, all I want is tips to work her back into my life so we can work things out.
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reader, Luv2giveadvice  +, writes (8 April 2011):
Sweetheart you deserve SO much better.
You are just blinded by your first love,
believe me, it may hurt but once the pain
has faded you will be glad you didnt waste
any more time on someone who is not sure you
are the one for her.
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reader, madlib +, writes (7 April 2011):
how old are you guys? She wants her cake and wants to string you along too in case the path of singlehood gets her nowhere. Move on- she left for a reason and if she wanted you back she would be with you right now. Go out, hang out with your friends, hit on some girls, and realize that there are plenty of attractive women out there that will think you are the shit and would not think twice about dating you. It is hard to let go of our firsts, but then we realize what we want and deserve once we start seeing other people.
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