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writes:I started a relationship with a girl going through divorce back in November. Things were going great, she was coming over every night, we had sex for a week straight, she said I turned her on. After 3 months she suddenly stopped coming over, still calls me every day but makes all kinds of excuses not to see me, she tells me to be patient but I don't understand why we can't atleast see each other. She is 12 years younger than me and I am very much in love with her. Am I just being paranoid, or is she just using me until she finds another?
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reader, frustratedlove +, writes (12 March 2010):
frustratedlove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your answers, they are all seemingly good answers. On one hand, it is extremely hard to take all the "no, not tonite" answers, on the other hand I don't want to give up on her because I truely do care about her. I think I will try my best to be patient awhile longer as she has asked and see how it turns out. Thanks again, frustratedlove...
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reader, sweetiebabes  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 Give her a little more time, she might be in a state of not knowing what she wants or need for her life. She just had a divorce and most likely she is not ready for a serious relationship right now. She likes you, yes. But I feel she is afraid or scared as of the moment of her feelings.
Be a friend to her, continue to communicate with her and be supportive. One day for sure she will vent her feelings why she stopped seeing you. And a woman will not call you often if she has no feelings. Be patient and broaden more your understanding.
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 if your in a relationship with some that you love you want to be with them all the time so making excuses is just a way out i think id say move on
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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 I think you should believe your gut feelings.In my opinion, a woman will always want to spend time with her man if she's into him. She likes you or has feelings for you, yes...but not as much as to see you and have sex with you. Chances are, she just want to be friends with you for now but she can't get herself to say that. A lot of women feel bad to reject someone they think likes them a lot. So she just talks to you on the phone in order for you not to feel rejected..but finding excuses not to see you is a red flag.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 It is mind torturing process of making choice, amongst many possible option. It sound like this in your case. It will not be useful to make straight discussion, but better to wait for right time, where result will come automatically. She make call every day, means result is pending. What ever be the result, but it will be good result, if payment of time be made with all due respect. Be patient and polite with her, it is also a good time, where mind is on fire of waiting and wanting.
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