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writes:Hi fellows, Me and my girlfriend have split up for over a month now. I'm having some difficulties. We were engaged for a year but things got complicated and complex so we finished. We split up and now a month on I'm getting these weird feelings, such as one day I want her and crave for her the next I dont give two s**ts if you get me.I need help with this because I feel really down when I want her. But feel really active and flirty when I don't want her. Please help!
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (13 August 2007):
 Hi
This is probably more to do with boredom & less to do with missing 'her'
When we split from someone there is a void. Theres going to be. There should be. But you have to ride the waves & get past that void by filling it with other activities, thats why you miss her at times, then dont care some days, i expect you have loads going on at that point.
Dont confuse boredom with missing, its a common mistake to make, and why loads of people go back into relationships that were meant to end for good. Too many people do what i call 'settle' for someone. Its a shame becuase all the time you're with the wrong person, you're missing the chance to meet the right person.
Be patient!
Good luck
C xxxxx
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (13 August 2007):
It is naturally to have mixed reactions after a long relationship has ended. Part of you remembers the good times and is still in shock that it is over. The other part realizes it is over and that you're probably better off.
I'd say take one of those times when you are feeling active and start chatting up some new women. After you start, the down times might just start to go away or at least become less frequent.
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