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writes:Heyy, im a 13 year old boy, and i REALLY love my best friend, she knows how i feel but she says "sorry, i just dont feel the same way" she's like a sister and i know she loves me, she just isnt admiting it,we hug, cuddle up, even hold hands but still, how can i get her to take me seriously and give me a shot?
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reader, SamuraiRick  +, writes (9 December 2007):
 Is your friend interest in other guys in a romantic way? Is she dating other guys? If so, then my answer to you is that you should end this relationship now at least as friends. She considers you as a friend and she’s being honest with you, and that’s fine. But I know you want it to be more than that…you want her to be your girlfriend. And this doesn’t mean you should go to bed with her even if you were boyfriend to her. That’s a different question.
She has laid out the ground rules for you, but it is up to you to comply. Are you willing to be her “Ducky?”(Pretty in Pink) Are you going to stand by while other guys go out with her and she goes to you as her friend to talk to you about what she does with other guys? That’s wouldn’t be fair to you.
If you are willing to break up with her as friends do it honestly and gently. Tell her because you find her attractive, you can only be with her if she’s interested in you the same way. Just be straight. She might just break with you, but don’t lose her number. Keep her option open for something more serious down the road. She might come to her senses and look you up again later…who knows? She has to know your ground rules too. She’ll probably find you more attractive if you stand up for yourself too.
But on the other hand if she’s not seeing any other guys, then take this easy. Back off from asking her to get closer and let time and nature take its course…. You are both still young, and maybe she feels that if she and you are boyfriend/girlfriend she has to sleep with you and she’s just not ready. If you take your time and be patient with her this could be a great relationship. The romance part can still be there for you. Wait it out.
But the critical question here is … Is she dating other guys?
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reader, kenny +, writes (9 December 2007):
 JUst keep going the way you are going, and don't start getting to serious with her and risk pushing her away. You are only 13, relax, have fun, enjoy being in each others company, cuddle up together, hold hand like you are doing. If anything is going to materialise between the pair of you let it happen slowly and naturally, some of the best relationships stem from being freinds first.
Good luck
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reader, hello1 +, writes (9 December 2007):
 Isn't that enough? Your only 13yr old. Do you want to have sex with her?
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reader, Crisy +, writes (9 December 2007):
 You know I hate it when I like a friend more than a friend. Try and make her jelous. Show her what you can be like with a girl and it might make her want you. But dont let it bother you too much, your still young, youll meet tons more girls.
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