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writes:i feel that i am in love with this guy. but the thing is, the first time we ever met we slept together. he said to me that he likes me and that i would make a great gf. we have been talking on msn, and by texts, but in the last week we haven't spoken at all, he is never online and he doesn't reply to my texts. i am really upset that he isnt talking to me, and i dont undrstand why, is it because he sees me as too easy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): plain and simple; this kid used you to get in your pants. you gotta be careful with that.. you really are easy. don't believe all what guys say, cuz pretty much they just sweet talk you to get in your pants. if you wait a while and see if they really "love" you then you should sleep with them. but not the first night when they tell you they love you! plus you're 13-15.. you don't even know what love is yet.
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (13 June 2008):
 Hi anon...
The difficult thing to understand about boys, specially those your age is: they are really horny!! I think it goes on after 18 and maybe through life, but we need to understand that.
There are boys who will take you out and invite you places and they just want to get laid. There are others that might meet your family and make jokes and... they just want to get laid! Then there are the really annoying ones, not funny, not romantic, plain players, they want to get laid. The very intelligent ones... they also want to get laid!! lol
In the process of going out and talking and spending time together they might create feelings for you and thats when a relationship has a possibility. So, for most boys you'll have to hold up on sex until you have an emotional connection. Is not about you being "easy" or not, it is your body and you take the decisions you want, but be warned that they just really really want to get laid (their hormones are going crazy and just a few guys learn how to control them). He might even come back for more but the truth is (by what you are saying) he is not pursuing an emotional attachment to you (as hard as it sounds). And yes, at that age they usually kiss and tell!
Through life you'll discover how to identify when a guy just wants sex or really wants to get to know you and then have sex. Sex will ALWAYS be your call... take advantage of that!!
Also, you must know sex is not just a physical thing, a lot of emotions and psyche go into it, so I would suggest (learned the hard way, by experience) think it well before sleeping with someone. If you get horny (because your hormones are acting up too) count to 10, take a deep breath, think about your mom in a swimsuit in Canada, drink a glass of cold water and wait a while. We females are much more emotional than guys and giving ourself to someone and then having no more interactions with them is difficult (even if we pride ourselves in being players). Your decision, but make the right ones so you don't regret it later on!!
I wish you all the best!!
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reader, SummerSunshine +, writes (13 June 2008):
 Some guys are jus genuinley out for one thing, and thats Sex im afraid. They trick you and leer you into thinking that it may be more and that you may be a potential couple. But dont worry and dont get upset about it, he isnt worth it. Dont text him or tlk on msn anymre until he texts you first, u dnt want to giv the desperate impression. If he doesnt contact u, leave it and move on. U deserve someone better than that.
However there can be 2 sides to this, he may have a very good reason for not tlkin to u for the last week! But still wait till he contacts u first!
Goodluck XXxXX
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reader, jay12toes  +, writes (13 June 2008):
 its possible. if hes just another scum bag then he probably feels that he got what he wanted and moved on. if thats the case you should move on too and be more carefull next time. however it is possible something else is going on. i once had a friend who was mad at me becuase i stoped answering my phone, well that was because i dropped it in the lake on accident. mabey his phone is broken, and mabey hes really busy right now. its only been a week, just give it a little more time.
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