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writes:Ive been going out with this girl for about 6 months now, we're roughly the same age and we still havent really got past the kissing and hugging stage. my freinds keep asking me "how far have you got" etc.. and when i tell them they tell me to dump her! but i really like her so im just wondering how long should i wait before we get past just kissing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): What century do you come from? I wish it was still like that Lol "just in marraige" actually I dont because
A. you may not be compatable
B. youd be that horney everyone would marry too young and may not fufill there life abition becouse kids come on the scene and to be a good mum or Dad youve got to put them first,
c.Marrige is just a piece of paper really I do want to get married 1 day however but I wish to be in bed with my partner 1st and it aint a sin!! its an expression of love under the right circomstances.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): Gentlemen don't tell their mates what they did or did not with a lady. Sex is not necesary in a relationship just in marriage.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 August 2007):
 I wouldn't dump my girl on the basis of whether my mates think that sex should happen at a given moment. This is your own and your girl's business only.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2007): Here's the answer you've been waiting for. If you want to get it on you have to test the water first. After you've been kissing a while run your hands down her back and trace kisses down her throat. As you kiss her collarbone slip your hand just underneath the tail of her shirt and on let it rest on her naked skin on the small of her back. (make sure hands are warm!!). Keep kissing lightly around her collarbone and back up her neck. Kiss her jaw and cheek and eyelids then back to her mouth again. Let your hand slide up her back and stop right at her bra strap. Kiss her deeply with tongue and slide your other hand around the back of her head caressing her hair. If she's uncomfortable with this she will stop you. If, however, she's been waiting for you to make the first move then she'll allow it. Keep kissing her all over and keep your hand caressing all over her naked back. Pull her close to you look in her eyes and tell her you love her.(only if you really do) Kiss her some more until she's breathing hard and grasp the clasp on the back of her bra and undo it. Caress the bare skin that laid under the straps. If she's let you go this far she's definitely ready for second base, maybe 3rd or a homerun!! After you get her bra undone put your other hand under the side of her shirt and while looking in her eyes tell her she's so beautiful then kiss her again. caress your hands up the inside of shirt from waist up to ribs. If she allows this you're ready for the boobs. Kiss her more passionately and pull away. Take hands out from under shirt and look in her eyes and gently tug the shirt over her head. She is 100% into it if she's let you come this far. Now you can allow her bra to fall and go touchy feely kissy kissy on those boobs. Hope this helps.Oh yea, don't do drugs, stay in school, use protection, and stop if she says stop.GOOD LUCK!
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (26 August 2007):
 You need to bust a move and try to get a bit further. I'd be annoyed too if I was dating a girl for 6 months and hadn't gotten past kissing.
Are you just freezing up or something? maybe try and ease your way down to finger her, but ask if she's ready or if you're going to fast so you don't weird her out.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (26 August 2007):
 Hi
I wouldnt be worrying about your mates. Teenagers can only see things in black and white at times! You sound a bit more mature than that. You go past first base when YOU and your girlfriend are ready.
And if you arent at the stage where you can talk about that, then you probably arent at the stage where you should start the nitty gritty!
You sounds like you have a lot of respect for her.
Good luck.
C xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2007): Ok your only young and I understand your friends acceptance is important to you, But think of it this way is it more important then your own happiness?
Friends think they know what’s best for you, after all your objective in that friendship I’m guessing used to be to go out to find girls and talk and brag about sex etc,
There at a different stage in there lives you’ve moved on from that stage of the pravdo why? because you’ve found real feelings for someone naturally there not going to like that they don’t understand at the moment I’m sure they will in years to come,
In the mean time maybe don’t bring it up with them keep girlfriend time and friend time separate,
And don’t even think of applying pressure to your girlfriend let everything happen naturally in its right time and place you like her? she brings you happiness? Keep seeing her!
Take care and remember you have took a step up the ladder to adulthood that’s something to be proud off,
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2007): Hunny
If you really like her whats the rush, Talk with her to make sure she feels safe and comfortable, it takes different people different amount of time to feel comfortable with someone. Your mates just want to no the sex side of things and if she isnt putting out then dump her, not nice really...
As so many just jump in the sack its nice when you find someone that you no doesnt do this on a regular basis or is a flirt and you have to keep your eyes peeled everytime you go out incase she is jumping on a mate love, Think about you and your girl and how you feel, and remember its between you two not for everyone else to worry about....
TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, confussed????? +, writes (26 August 2007):
If you've been going out for 6 months then you should be able to discuss things with her...ie: How she feels about the relationship, happy with just 'kissing and hugging' ect.If you really like being with her as you said, you wouldnt dump her over something like this. Ignore your mates on this one and talk to her.Hope this helps.
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