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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 2yrs. We have a 10 month olddaughter and im pregnant again. Every since we been going out i have always hada problem with him and other females. He always hides his phone from me and putsit on vibrate when im around. If somebody calls he might answer but most of thetime he says he dosent know who it is and he is not going to answer. I havecaught him a couple of times cheating but he always claims that he will change.I know he has cheated alot more than i caught him but every time i catch him heeither denys it or make it seem like he is the victim and its my fault. Lastweek once again i found his phone and caught him cheating again. He promisedthat he was going 2 change this time. I said i would give him one more chance.But last night i called his phone and he didnt answer so i decided to check hisvoicemail (He gave me the password). Not to my surprise he was caught again. Ibroke up with him. He got mad and started denying it and said i was jumping toconclusions but i know what i heard. He made it seem like it was my fault. Nowhe is actin like he is the victim. Im actually starting to feel bad because iwant 2 be back with him but i dont wanna keep getting hurt. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): Sweetheart please move on, he is not thinking of you or the kids, when he cheats he knows that if caught there is a possibility he'd lose u and the kids but he still does it. my ex was the same and im now bringing up our son and my other 3 to my ex of 12 years alone. its hard at first, i kept thinking is it me? 2 dysfunctional relationships (although my ex of 12yrs never cheated) thing is its not us we never cheated, or hurt those close to us. you will meet someone who is worthy of you and your two beautiful children, he is far too immature to deserve you or the kids. Do you want them growing up thinking this is normal behaviour? I chose to go it alone it would have been easy to forgive again but chances are hun he'll do it again because he can. Stay strong for you, your little one and the bump, i promise you there is light at the end of the tunnel, take care xxxx
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reader, vixie22495 +, writes (16 September 2007):
 I would leave him im stuck in the same type of situation me and my bf have a child on the way and he keeps cheating. you should leave him hes not worth it if he would choose someone else over his own children. i know it mite be hard but who knows maybey the shock of loosing his children will snap him out of it and help him realise you and his children are more important.
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reader, TaylorChu +, writes (12 September 2007):
 Ditch him. Find family and friends to help you with your children until you can support yourself. You dont want a man like that around you or your kids. He won't be a good father at all to them if he isnt being faithful to you. He is, indeed, being immature. It will come back to bite him if he doesnt change his behavior.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): Most males when they get caught cheating, will act like you did something wrong. This is a sign of immaturity, and not knowing how to own up & be a man. They will get mad & yell at you, tell you to leave them alone.. I have been through that before. My question to you is, why did you have 2 kids with him when in the beginning, he was doing this to you? I'm sorry but if you don't want to be cheated on for the rest of your relationship, you're going to have to leave him. And do not go back b/c this guy will not change any time soon honey. He is young & not ready to settle down. Some men are never ready for that..You're still so young yourself. You can find a decent guy who wants to be a father to your kids. Just make sure he is a decent guy before you get involved with him.
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reader, towapa  +, writes (12 September 2007):
 Then don't go back to him then. You gave him plenty of chances and he blew them all away. Keep in contact for the sake of the children, but if you're unhappy and don't want to get hurt by him again, then don't bother with him anymore. You could always talk things through in a deep conversation and get back together again... But you know what they say, don't you? Once a cheat, always a cheat.
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