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writes:I had sex for the first time with my boyfriend and it ended up hurting a lot. He was a perfect gentleman and asked me many times if I was okay and we didn't keep going because he was afraid of hurting me more than he already was. He had wanted me to be on top then, and while I like the idea of being on top... I was afraid. We've talked about it and he's bought lube for the next time we try. He also still wants me on top, and I still rather like the idea of it. Only two things I'm a little afraid of. One, I've been told two different things about being on top from experienced friends. One who said her first time she started on bottom and ended up on top and it was more enjoyable that way. Another who says it hurts more on top because he gets in deeper. The other thing I'm a little afraid of is being able to.. well... keep up? I'm worried I won't have enough stamina if I'm the one on top (I've never gone very long when I masterbate) Reply to this Question
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We had sex which was great, but when she was on top it hurt her, anyone know this could happen ? I need tips on sex...how do I "ride" my bf? (me on top) Tried having sex, but it hurt so much he had to stop! I can only have sex when the girl is on top...is this normal for a guy's first time? |
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2007): dont worry about it hurting...my first time really hurt but i left it about 2 weeks before i tried again and it didnt hurt whatsoever second time round.
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (23 March 2007):
 the first time you have sex it will hurt no matter how you try it...after it happens for a while it will not be as bad...you cant always listen to how other people have sex the first time because it is diffrent for many people, dont worrie about being on the top thats one thing that you dont let bother you, you both will work at the same time you can always keep up, and getting yourself off is alot diffrent then having sex and letting him get you off, because you know your g-spot so it will be diffrent when you are ready you will know..make sure you use rubbers all the time, pregnacy is a big responisablity specially when your not ready! well i hope i helped you
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reader, mum2be  +, writes (20 March 2007):
There more you have sex, the less it will hurt anyway, so if you try different positions, and find the one that suits you, then you are likely to find it hurts less each time anyway. Use the lube your bf bought, as this will help, and most importantly make sure you are relaxed before you have sex... if you are scared, and therefore tense, it is more likely to hurt... so, as dragonette says, make sure you start with plenty of foreplay...
And don't worry about stamina... he will find all that pumping hard too!
all the best
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (20 March 2007):
 Actually you have more control over how deep he goes if you're on top, and because you have more control it's easier for you to get what you want on top. And don't worry about the stamina thing, if you get tired you can always switch positions, right? =)
About it hurting, try having long foreplay so your body gets a fair chance to prepare itself, and use the lube that your boyfriend bought, it will make unease due to friction less likely to occur =)
Take care and have fun!
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