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writes:Hi, this is a sad story so please read it carefully and answer me..this is Rajesh from India. I loved a girl who is very beautiful from my school times(back 8 th grade) and ultimately god made her my wife. We got married with our parent's happy because my wife is very caring and very beautiful girl. i am 27 and she is 26 and we got married two years back.For the first year we didnt wanted a child, and i wanted to do sex with her almost evrynight(conceptions) whenever i got to sleep with her. Because i love her from the bottom of my heart, we really enjoyed mating. She is my life and i cant sleep alone without her. The problem started in the 2nd year of our marriage. we decided to have our baby now and i was very happy about it. She got pregnant for 2 months. we live in a joint family with my parents, so sometimes its very odd to make mate with her in the home. I saw her in kitchen and she was busy in making food for all of us, i dont know what aroused me so much and i started to mate her from behind. i was crazy. like animal i started to thrust her, i know she didnt like it. but i was out of my mind. i made forceful sex with her, i forgot that she was heavy with 2 months. i didnt realise for a second what actually happened. she was nervous, she lost all the power. and then she fainted in my arms. she was not opening her eyes, i got really afraid of what happened. i took her to the clinic, where the doctor told that, her womb was hit.:(they told that the featus for injured, and they suggested for pre-labor. our baby was miscarried by my sin on my wife.i was shattered in my life. i was so nervous of what i did in my act. i forced my lover of life for something that was damn blunder at this stage. my wife was on bed for a week. she lost much blood and so we had to put her on bottles of blood..:(from that time, i feel so nervous about that incident. i feel so afraid, that its almost 7 months and we havent mated. i cuddle with her, i kiss her, i go over her, but when it comes to mate i dont make it, and she feels very sad for us. she wants to ve loved and try again, but i dont go for it. my life is completely in a stoppage. we need each other madly, but i dont let myself to mate again because of that incident. now she is completely ok. and she told me that she felt sorry for that she cannot give me my baby, and i say that it was me and not her who should feel sorry for it. i did my sin. but she says that it was normal in life and bad times too come, and she tries to cuddle with me, but those times bell in my heart again. i really dont want to make her visit the clinic for my wrong doings. i made my wife weep for all these months, i know she wants me, and she told me that frankly, but i cant do..please tell me what should i do to overcome it. my wife is beautiful, and i am doing injustice to her by not giving her a baby again. she wants to give me a child, and she wants to milk that child, she told me. i know what a woman wants in life, i love her....:( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): yes you did wrong by forcing urself on your wife, but she has forgiven you and now its time for you to forgive yourself because she loves you and wants a baby with you. We are not all perfect beings and sometimes we do unwise things. Im sorry to hear that you lost your child but only you can make the choice to try again, your wife cant do it alone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): hi,i am sorry for ur wives lost... but "DONT FORCE YOURSELF ON UR WIFE"u think that ur wife is OK but she is not-because of ur mistake ur wife had a miscarriage.. and in women's world... when a women loses her child part of her disappears.- my wfe got into a car accident and it resulted in a miscarriage.. and it had been 4 years and she still blames herself... "good luck man"remember ur mistake and try to improve it... make her feel that u love her.. and don't force her ever again in ur life-learn to put ur wife's wont ahead of urs and hopefully everything will work out
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): @soul4real
thanks for answering me, you are really very helpful person...
i will like to ask my boss to give me a couple of weeks for my job and take her to a place where we are not into the family mess.. love needs to be private sometimes, and i cannot leave my old parents too,,..You know soul, its a good or bad culture in India i dont know, but we are almost too much caring for the people around us, the men i mean.. and this eats us..
my wife has about a hundred times told me that she is absolutely fine, but now since you are a secret friend.. thanks for the most helpful answer..
i will try to give a nephew or a niece some months from now..:) i am satisfied with your answer...
Thanks again..:)
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