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writes:This is quite a long story,hope u can help! i've been with my boyfriend for 9 months, i thought everything was going quite well, we didn't argue that much and had good times together. however,about 2 weeks ago he asked for a break because he wanted time to himself..i was upset but agreed to it.when we met up after the week i noticed he was still distant then he admitted that he wasn't sure what he wanted. he told me that he still loved me and didn't want to break up and to see how things went. i asked if there was anyone else and he admitted that one of his old girl mates had told him she liked him and he was unsure how he felt.this really upset me. i left his house and went back to mine and we carried on texting each other. then i decided that i couldn't wait around until he made his mind up and decided to end things with him. he was crying on the phone and said that he loved me and asked if we could remain really good friends. i said maybe but not rite now because I needed time to get over it and he hung up the fone crying. in the morning he txt me first thing sayin that he loved me and doesn't know what he'd do without me and asked if I'd take him back. Of course I said yes..but I still feel as though he is a little distant. I asked if he needed more time to think but he said no..what do u all make of this? sorry it's so long!!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (17 March 2009):
 Maybe you are just reading too much into this. This guy has asked for you back (to which you said yes) and he has repeatedly told you he loves you. I think you may just be feeling insecure about the break-up and the involvement of another girl in this. He has told you he doesnt need more time, so I think you should just believe him.
While you may think he is being distant, this could just all be in your head. Stop over-analysing things, and try not to read too much into his behaviour. Just be happy you are back together and try and enjoy being together rather than worrying all the time.
What could be happening is that because you are constantly on-edge about the situation, and because you are watching his behaviour all the time may actually be pushing him away. So in essence it could be you that is pushing him away and making him distant, rather than anything on his part.
Just relax a bit, go out on a few dates together and start having fun again. Put these last few weeks behind you and start fresh, you are young and you should be enjoying each other's company.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, lizzyb  +, writes (17 March 2009):
I don't think you shouldn't have jumped back in so quickly. He might think that he can do this again because you took him back so easily. I'd be very wary. Be yourself but be sure to give him pleanty of space. try and take things slowly.
You could also be a little paranoid, because you're scared of him leaving you again. be wary of that.
I just went through a breakup myself and he has said he wants me back too but I am unwilling to take him back so easily. you need to build the trust again and take things slowly
good luck!
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