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*ugar rayx
writes:Me and my bf of 6 months broke up 2months ago and im still madly inlove with him i cant get him out my head im absolutely crazy about himHe wont talk to me at all im running after him like a puppy dog text after text etc i know i shouldnt but i cant help myself :'( I did break up with him no really wanting to but we had a daft argument and i called it off What am i suppose to doAlso 2weeks after we broke up i have a miscarriage he was supportive but after all hospital checks was done with iv not heard from him well i started seeing someone wrongly like rebound type thing though i split up with him knowing that wasnt right but thats the thing i hadnt heard from my ex till i started seeing this other guy he facebooked me and he was rathere jealousAnyway what do i do how can i either win him back or get over him i actually cry myself to sleep every night im so heartbrokenSomeone please help i dont want to feel like this anymore :-( x
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (8 August 2011):
 Hey again :) I don't know why but my response was has been altered slightly, you know towards the end where it refers to MY ex? lol. Not sure what's gone on there! But anyway... I really do think distancing yourself from him will do the world of good! The moment he thinks that he's losing you, he will come running. I think that's how most men are programmed really, they like to be the ones doing the chasing and who are in control. While you're texting him constantly, he's feeling pressured and doesn't want to give in. I know it's going to be hard, but if you're determined enough you'll do it :) Also, this might seem irrelevant, but Astrology can give you a real insight in personal relationships! It's helped me alot where men are concerned, since they are VERY complicated lol. So just say his starsign is Pisces - type in 'How to get Pisces ex boyfriend back' and see what comes up! I'm not going against my own advice here lol, I do still think you should postpone all contact. It's just that astrology can offer you a more personal approach, which might be more effective! Again, I hope I've helped :) Let me know how it all goes x
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reader, sugar rayx +, writes (8 August 2011):
sugar rayx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe broke up over a silly thing in the morning wasnt even important woke up on the wrong side of the bed type thing
I did only say to him just to take a few days break from eachother but that turned into a break up
Yes he is very stubborn any time we had a wee bicker he wouldnt talk hes like a closed book some times
In texts i have said pretty much everything and still no reply sept the facebook msg
A few of our friends has told me when they see him all he does is ask if iv spoke about him but he hasnt said anything about me
Friends also think the same as myself i think he does want me back but hes to proud to admit it
I have tried not to contact him but it is to hard :-/
I have said pretty much what you suggested but still nothing
I guess thats what i have to do though is keep myself from contacting him and hope for the best
Easier said than done though lol
Thank you for your help x
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (7 August 2011):
Breaking up with a man you love is never easy. I wanted my ex back for many months, I was devastated but within time it got easier and now I have met someone else. However, my situation is different because I was the one who got finished with! Fortunately for you, you have the upper hand. He was there in your time of need and suddenly re-appears when you have a new man in your life. To me, that signals that he does love you and still cares about you. You haven't gone into detail about the argument or how he responded to the break up, but from what I can gather he is likely feeling very hurt and upset about how things ended between you, which explains why he won't talk. He sounds like the stubborn type and despite the fact he wants you back, he is pushing you away - maybe he thinks that's what you deserve? But obviously that depends on the reason you guys broke up. Was he in the wrong or was it you? There's two approaches that could potentially work to win him back. Firstly, is reverse psychology. As difficult as it may be, resist the temptation to contact him. After a while he will wonder why you're not trying to get him back (even though you are) and this will give him the time he needs to start missing you. Once he's had enough space to clear his head then he'll hopefully realise what he's lost and get in contact again, in hope of a reunion. The good thing here is that he knows you want him back, so the moment you stop texting him he'll think you've given up and/or moving on. If he loves you, he should come running back! However, there's no guarantee. It's a clever technique to try though! Alternatively you could send him a long text message, or better still a voicemail and be completely honest with him about the way you feel. You haven't mentioned what you've been putting in the text messages, so this approach is less certain. If you tell him that you love him and want to make things right then that could make all the difference. Just don't come across as desperate, be mature and civilised with what you're saying. For example it would be much more effective to say 'I just want to express to you how sorry I am, I never meant for it to come to this. I love you but I understand if you don't want to get back together. I've been struggling lately and regret what i've done. I thought of saying to my ex, "I would really appreciate if we could meet up sometime and just talk things through - I'd like us to be on good terms, even if nothing else. I'm sure you want that too?' (or along those lines)". As opposed to me saying to my ex,'Please give me another chance, I will do anything. Please reply I'm so miserable without you'.See the difference? I hope I've helped! Good luck xx
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (7 August 2011):
 I think the best thing for you is to force yourself not to contact him anymore. You don't need him to be there and in fact it will probably hurt you more if he is there. I'm sorry for what you had to go through but now you should seek the company of your friends and in time he will fade out of your mind. Keep yourself busy and don't contact him unless he makes the first move and even then it would probably be best to not let him into your life.
You broke up for a reason and if nothing has changed you two shouldn't get back together. I'm not saying it is easy but with sood support it is possible. I just went through a break up and the best thing I found was to spend time with the people who care about me.
This may mean a few more nights crying yourself to sleep but it does get easier. You'll always love him but in the end realize that you are better off without him.
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reader, sugar rayx +, writes (7 August 2011):
sugar rayx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIf it was that easy i wouldnt be asking for help now would i?!
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reader, BREEN56  +, writes (7 August 2011):
JUST LET HIM GO.
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