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writes:Hi I am getting married in a few months. We are both virgins..but I am scared. Don't know how he feels about the first time. Is it painful? If I bleed a bit will he be disgusted about it?What is the best position?
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (2 February 2009):
 i didnt bleed the first time, neither dd my friend. it didnt hurt us either. make sure you're relaxed, take it slowly and talk and discuss things. good luck.x
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reader, masquerade711  +, writes (2 February 2009):
 The key is taking your time, and for him, being gentle. Not so gentle that you both just kind of...lie there, but gentle enough that you can adjust to any pain as you're going. Now, it's quite possible you won't feel any pain (don't count on it, but it's a possibility, lol). If you do feel some pain and it gets to be a little too much to take, just ask him to stop for a moment, catch your breath, and let him keep going. Also keep in mind the pain is totally natural, and the more you guys do it, you'll feel less and less pain, until finally it's all pleasure. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): Stop worrying and getting information to take the wonder of it away!I was a virgin too, and the 1st time is a 'wonder' you feel more like a woman than you ever have.All you have to do is ask him is to be gentle, and try to be as relaxed as you can. go very slow. if it hurts, then ask him to go in a 1/2 to 1 inch at a time before he is fully in.It won't be perfect, just amazing to see each other naked and love touching.Don't worry about positions, you will have a lifetime to experiment.(he probably will guide you in that)It took me 10 years to have an orgasm when I turned 30 so don't put pressure on yourself over that too!!!Don't watch any porn because don't you want all your sexual memories with your husband?
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reader, Velma  +, writes (2 February 2009):
Wonderful! You will be so glad that you waited. Don't worry about anything. It will all work out. It may take a little while for it to be comfortable. You probably need to buy some lubricating gel. This is helpful. But trust me--it will work out.
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